So, I overheard my roommate telling one of her friends that she’s throwing this big party this Friday. It’s the weekend before finals and I have a ton of studying to do.
We are not on good terms, and there are a total of four of us living in the apartment. She has not brought this to any of our attention, has not mentioned anything about it to us, and has not asked any of us if it’s okay to do this.
What should I do? I don’t have the patience to confront her, as she’s been acting like a child lately and I don’t need extra stress and problems to deal with her attitude right now.
I am sorry to hear you’re having a difficult time! The best thing to do is to ask her point blank about having a party. If you really don’t want to do that, the only thing you can do is either a. wait and see if the party comes to fruition b. stay with your family or a friend this weekend in case she does have a party. I would highly encourage you to talk to her, though. If you and the 2 other roommates approach her together, that might make it easier on you. Remember - you and your roommates have just as much right to the space as she does.
Thank you for your reply and your advice. I have already talked to one of my roommates about it who stated that she doesn’t really care, so I highly doubt she would help me approach the situation. And I don’t have family close to me that I can stay with, so that’s not really an option either. I just don’t want to be irritated, not be able to go anywhere else, or not get any sleep or any studying in. And I’m just really upset that she didn’t ask us if it was okay before planning everything. Thanks again.
Wait, so the party is just on Friday evening/night? Could you still study on Saturday or Sunday? And is there anywhere else you could study besides your room like the library? Sleeping is going to be tough if you don’t have a friend nearby whose place you can crash at, but maybe you could make an anonymous noise complaint to the management / get a neighbor to do it if they’re being obnoxiously loud?
Is this the same roommate causing the thermostat issues, lol?
I don’t think it’s entirely reasonable to expect quiet on Friday night in the dorm. Go to the library. They usually offer extended hours during exams. It’s probably warmer anyway.
Thank you both for your replies. I should add that I attend a commuter campus and live in a off campus apartment with three other people. This is not the same roommate causing the thermostat issues, but this roommate I have had problems with because of her smoking marijuana in the apartment. I do not have any friends nearby and I have two four-credit class finals to study for. I understand that it’s just that Friday, but I have overheard her talking about people sleeping on the couches and I cannot sleep in an environment like that. My problem is that this party seems to be like it’s going to be pretty big and she did not inform any of us of her plans.
If you can’t stay with family or friends, you can’t study in the library, you can’t talk to your roommate about not having the party, and won’t make a noise complaint, then your only other options are to a. just let her do we she wants and live with it or b. rent a hotel room Friday night.