<p>Followed this thread with great interest and so happy your daughter got a single!!! Yay!!!</p>
<p>Glad to hear your daughter got a single. The soon to be ex-roommate should be temporarily happy, now that she will have the room to herself for a few days. If she has not been told she will be given a new roommate, she might think she won - your daughter has a single and pays more, while she remains in the larger double by herself and pays the double rate. But obviously that is going to change. She may end up wishing she had agreed to move, unless they find a compatible roommate for her (sounds like it’s not likely). Once can always hope they match her with someone else just like her, and let her know they did so on purpose, because she made it clear she wasn’t going to get along with someone who is not like her.</p>
<p>Please keep us updated!</p>
<p>Yay for your daughter and for all introverts! I felt for you both, so annoyed when it seemed she might have to move farther from school.
And here’s hoping that the person who moves in with ex RM can at least hold their own–and maybe even act as the instrument of karmic poetic justice and make exRM realize what a pain she is!</p>
<p>And yes, definitely keep us updated!</p>
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<p>Maybe someone whose idea of great music to be blasted 24/7 is cheesy disco a la Beegees or Vanilla Ice. 
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<p>OP, I’ve been following this thread with great interest. So glad to hear that your D is getting a single! And also glad to hear that the powers that be are on to the now-thankfully-ex-RM. :D</p>
<p>I’m amazed that two such different people can wind up as roommates, when there are so many matching tools available to both the housing offices, as well as to the students to ensure this type of thing does not happen. </p>
<p>At D’s school, the students thought the housing questionnaire was too basic, so they set up a self-matching website that seems to have worked beautifully, at least for D and her roommate. Really, it doesn’t matter if you’re best friends, or even if you like your RM at all, as long as you are compatible in the basics, such as hours preferred for sleeping, intro/extravert, study to music/no music, party/not party, sexile/no sexile, neat/messy, and more. It shouldn’t be that hard to match roommates up along these lines. Even if they dislike each other, they should be an environment that feels safe and clean.</p>
<p>“Ironically, while he’s been out of school for a while, that GPA dip is still affecting him today as some performance reviews with his supervisor did cite that as a factor in why he has been promoted at a slower rate than peers hired in the same year/job level.”</p>
<p>You’re privy to random acquaintances’ performance reviews at work, cobrat?</p>
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<p>What was really frustrating is that the school DOES have matching tools and D DID match with a roommate and then was not assigned a different one. Both D and the prospective roommate requested each other but were assigned different people. I don’t know why.</p>
<p>Anyway, she is happy in her closet and that is what matters!</p>
<p>What I MEANT to say is that D and a prospective roommate requested each other but got different roommates assigned…yikes this has been a long day!</p>
<p>Karma can be a bbbiitttch.</p>
<p>RM might be getting someone she will appreciate even less…after all, who knows why her new roomie is switching rooms or what her story/problems are!</p>
<p>I hope your daughter enjoys her new single and her friends in the Artists Colony.</p>
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<p>If you had read more carefully, you’d realize he’s a younger friend whom I’ve known since his college years. Especially considering he and the roommate & dormmates all asked me to mediate the dispute over the effects of his turning his dormroom into social/party-central. We’ve remained friends since…and are close enough so that he asked for my take of his employer evaluations…both from his written evaluations and from what he heard from his direct supervisor.</p>
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Not sure what posts you’re referring to, cobrat, but there’s a world of difference between an “introverted serious” roommate and one who never leaves the room and is a silent, brooding omnipresence 24/7, which is the roommate I described. There are lots of places on campus where one can study. Dorms are living quarters, not branch libraries, and socializing is a perfectly normal thing to do in one’s room. The roommate who wants to entertain friends in reasonable numbers and at reasonable hours should be under no more obligation to compromise than the roommate who wants to study. Both functions are appropriate, and compromise has to go both ways. I couldn’t stand some of my freshman roomie’s friends, so I just went to the library or lounge to study when they were around. I had no special right to the room just because my activity involved academics.</p>
<p>Turning to OP’s daughter’s happy result, I don’t know how she can resist texting her old roomie as follows: “Sooo happy in my single! Thanks for all your help in making it happen. Best of luck with your new roommate.”</p>
<p>So happy she got away from her RM and got her own room! I actually think that having a single might be better for her right now. After such a traumatic experience with a RM, she can relax and heal at her own rate. </p>
<p>And have guests and study jams as much as she wants. :)</p>
<p>MommaJ, I love your proposed text to old roomie.</p>
<p>I just also wanted to comment on some of the discussion of “serious, introverted” roomie vs. social butterfly.</p>
<p>They are both equally entitled to the use of the room. Just because someone has good social skills and enjoys using them does not mean they are a poor student. A social butterfly should not have to feel he or she can never have friends over to socialize in the room (during reasonable hours) because the roomie is omnipresent in the room, never leaving other than to go to class. There are other places to study or stream movies on a laptop. Similarly, a more introverted roomie should not feel that he or she is always being expelled from the room because a social roomie wants to entertain friends all the time. The campus and the dorm both have lots of places to socialize, and lots of places to study.</p>
<p>The roomies need to reach a compromise balancing the rights and needs of both of them.</p>
<p>As I’ve mentioned before, when my oldest son and his roomie at first had problems with similar issues, they came up with the idea of rotating weeks with each roomie having a turn having priority for use of the room, whether to study, sleep, socialize, whatever–with the agreement that guests were to be out of the room by 11 or so on class nights.</p>
<p>It worked for them…the roomie was the best man at my son’s wedding.</p>
<p>But I am glad OP’s daughter got a single because this particular roomie is so toxic.</p>