<p>My roomie has too many guys. And no, not college guys. Older guys. Sugar Daddies. Her most recent guy is 60. I can't even keep track of them all. Then she tells me that this past week she finally lost her virginity to some random French 34 year old and had a good amount of unprotected sex. She took the morning after pill 3 mornings after and I told her she needs to pray she does not get pregnant and needs to get tested for STDs.</p>
<p>What should I do? I know she is not my responsibility, but I do care about her and am concerned for her.</p>
<p>It's not your problem and you shouldn't be responsible for her. And this isn't the kind of behaviour that a sit-down will change. Unless what she's doing is encroaching on your space (i.e. she has guys over frequently or has phone sex while you're in the room, etc...), just leave her be.</p>
<p>I would try to be as helpful as possible. I would tell her frankly that she should stop having sex with random men. If possible, I would also tell her other friends or family members about her problems.</p>
<p>I had lunch with a friend who came back from his 1st year at Berkeley and he told me the best thing is too never impose your own values on another person because College kids believe they are untouchable. Ask her if theres anything she needs and if she needs to talk ull be there for her, but if u tell her what shes doing is wrong or she shoudlnt be living life the way she is, she may just lash out at u and never come to u for help when she really needs it.</p>
<p>golden rule - if it doesn't affect you directly it's not really your business. hard to follow but the best way to go about things. if your roommate is doing all of this outside the room it doesnt apply to you.</p>
<p>m y o b....you warned her,ask for a request to change roommates. allota collge girls are like that,there in there "attention whore" stage.that's why i always advised guys to avoid serious relationships with girls between the age of (18-25)</p>
<p>if she starts bringing "strange" men- the kind not connected to the college, she could be putting you in danger, if she is "free" with her favors, who in the he77 knows what she might allow into your room, and that is scary, because if her judgement is so poor and she is bringing men into the dorm, and they have access, safety would be my concern</p>
<p>goke, that's great advise, to tell people to avoid dating and relationships during the start of your prime dating years. I can't speak for guys, but of all my friends who haven't already found that guy who is "the one", they definately want to have found him by 25. It won't happen if you are in hiding because some people make dumb dating choices. You just have to have some maturity and common sense when it comes to dating, but there's no reason at all to avoid relationships like the plague. </p>
<p>walllyfus, I agree that you can't tell your roomie how to live her life, but you sure as heck can tell her that she can't live that life in your shared room. If she gets HIV or winds up pregnant, she was asking for it and you won't make it your problem to solve. Establish a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. It doesn't sound like you'll become best buddies who will want to have last night guy talk anyway, so you've got nothing to lose.</p>