<p>I'm a freshman at Purdue and recently I've been having a lot of trouble with my roommate. First semester was great, and we were like best friends, but after break she came back and she's just been unbearable. At the end of last semester she got a boyfriend (who I absolutely despise, but that's not too important), and the tipping point was when she had him over for twelve hours two days before my chem final. I sat her down and just said that that was really not cool, and that she should ask me if he's going to be over for more than two hours.</p>
<p>After break, she came back and made a huge deal about wanting her space, because we were in the same Physics lecture and Engineering class and we sit next to each other in band and she thought that was too much time together. So I acknowledged that, and I've been giving her her space during the day. However, every day we had a day off, she'd invite her boyfriend over for up to ten hours, and he'd always leave at 2:30 AM, and she did this like three times before anything happened. One day, I told her that no, I didn't want him to come over and she got mad at me. Two days after that we had a mediation with our RA where we decided that she couldn't have him over or more than 15 hours a week and she said she'd be more mindful of my space.</p>
<p>That week I actually left our room for the whole weekend, so she had the whole space to herself and she had him over all weekend. The next weekend came around and she asked me to leave and had her boyfriend over for ten hours, even though she'd just had the whole room to herself the week before. I thought that was really selfish, and I was really upset about it, but I didn't say anything.</p>
<p>I have depression and anxiety, and she knows that, and she knows that I'd been having a bad day, but she still kicks me out of my room and makes me feel like I'm not welcome at all. It's really upsetting to me that she treats me so disrespectfully even though she knows I'm mentally ill.</p>
<p>So this past week I haven't really been talking to her, because I decided that she was just a selfish person and no matter how many times I talked to her, she wasn't going to respect me, so I was ready to just give up on it because talking to her about it again was too stressful. Yesterday she decided we needed to have another mediation because she was upset.</p>
<p>She told me that she felt we needed to have our RA mediate because if she confronted me on her own I'd just be passive aggressive, which is ridiculous because she's never confronted me about anything without our RA there. And I told her that she made me feel like I wasn't welcome in my room and that she made it obvious that my presence annoyed her. She kept reminding me that she hadn't technically broken any of the rules we set down, and how was she supposed to know I was upset if I didn't tell her. I tried to make her see from my point of view by saying if I kicked her our for ten hours straight, she'd be annoyed, and her response was that that wouldn't annoy her.</p>
<p>She also said that she felt like she was the one who always had to compromise, but I never gave up anything. When I asked for examples she said that during our last mediation she'd had to agree to only have him for so many hours a week but I didn't agree to anything. Which is ridiculous, because I'm agreeing to let her have him over, and I give them space when they're here, so I don't understand what more she could want.</p>
<p>Basically she was completely unapologetic for completely disrespecting me and shows no signs of remorse or guilt or anything.</p>
<p>Our RA mentioned that we can move rooms, but I don't think either of us is really willing to move. I've been staying with my neighbors more frequently, and they understand my problem and they're cool with letting me stay over. But I just don't know what to do, I want my roommate to understand how selfish she's being, but she shows no signs of doing that.</p>
<p>Is she being selfish or am I being too sensitive?</p>
<p>TL;DR I think my roommate is being really selfish, but am I just blowing things out of proportion?</p>