<p>i think its kind of weird in high school but when you think about, its not that unusual that a 28 year old marry a 24 or 25 year old.</p>
<p>You all talk about there's a big difference between a 14 year old and a 17 year old or just turned 18 year old. There really isn't.</p>
<p>OMG- yes there is and if there isn't then the 17 year old needs to grow up...17 year olds are driving, working, getting ready for college...14 year olds are just starting out...if you are in the same place as a 14 year old- mentally and interestwise, yikes!!! By the way, 18 year is an ADULT legally and morally, 14 is still a child, no matter how mature you think they are...</p>
<p>Judging someone solely on the basis of thier age no different than any other prejudice. Albeit there might be an average level that most 14 years old are at, that is by no means where they ALL are at. I've seen some pretty amazing and mature 14 year olds...</p>
<p>I've already said what I thought about this particular situation...</p>
<p>Judging someone by age is totally appropriate, when you get older, you will see....</p>
<p>Amazing mature whatever, they are STILL 14!!!! So any mature 17-18 year olds will have nothing to do with a child....if they do, then the 17-18 year are pretty immature themselves</p>
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<p>Assuming that seniors are 17-18 and freshman are 14-15, what if it was a 17-year-old senior dating a 15-year-old freshman? Its still a senior-freshman/freshman-senior relationship, but the age difference is only 2 years.</p>
<p>"Four years is too much."</p>
<p>The difference between a senior and freshman is only three years, actually.</p>
<p>I know someone (about 17 years old) dating a 30-year-old. He's not my friend, though. What does everyone think?</p>
<p>sad, what is that woman thinking...okay....can she be that bad that no men her age will have anything tp do with her</p>
<p>at 14 three years is a lifetime....at 14 two months is a lifetime....and I am sorry, but a 17 year old who only has things in common with a 14 year old is sad</p>
<p>Yes, I was completely different three years ago.</p>
<p>It has nothing to do with "Will another person of that same age date them?" scenario that you're making everything out to be, citygirlsmom. It all has to do with CHOICE. The 17-year-old CHOOSES to date the 30-year-old.</p>
<p>Like I said there really isn't much difference. What you're talking about is a little more responsibility like working, car and college. Ok. Now they have to get a job to support themselves and gas money. PLUS they have the car so now they can go anywhere they want to and buy the things they probably couldn't get before. Like buying all the CDs, and Xbox games without asking their parents. Just because they have more things to think about and care for doesn't mean they can'T have simular interest as younger adolescents. Like the 19-20 year olds I go to school with still play hacky sack and Magic cards. I thought guys would mature after highschool, THEY DON'T, and I don't mean that in a bad way. AND they like checking out high school girls. In the end, the only difference between a 14 year old male and a 18 year old male is MORE FREEDOM.</p>
<p>Well yeah he would, but what about her? She chooses to date a high schooler, half her age... she has issues, and yes I don't know her but I know 30 year old women, and if one of MY friends was dating a high school boy, I would wonder what was wrong with her, that is the truth, and no self respecting 30 year old dates a high schooler, sorry...and yes it does have to do with :will another person of that same age date them?"</p>
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<p>Amazing mature whatever, they are STILL 14!!!! So any mature 17-18 year olds will have nothing to do with a child....if they do, then the 17-18 year are pretty immature themselves
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<p>Hahaha! now you're judging ME based on my age! (of which you have no idea) ohh thats funny really...</p>
<p>Yes, most 14 year olds should NOT be dating 18 year olds. But to say that these relations are NEVER good is a ridiculous generalization... Besides, we don't even have criteria to determine a "successful" or "good" relationship.</p>
<p>Age means very little definitively.</p>
<p>I stand by my opinions, I am older than most of you, seen alot, work with youth and I know that 14 year old and 18 year olds are worlds apart. And if an 18 year old looked deep into themselves, and really really thought about it, as any adult would do, they would see that dating a child, no matter how "mature" they appeared is not appropriate. The girl that dated an older boy and she had to sneak around and lie- she claimed her boyfriend cared about her and was worried she would get in trouble. But didn't care or wasn't worried enough to back off. When you really care about someone you do what is best for THEM, even if it means staying away and not encouraging them to do things that are wrong.</p>
<p>My D tells me that when a senior is "dating" a freshman, the freshman (usually girls) is seen as a fool and the senior (boys) is seen as a loser or just out for something for having to date a freshman, because no self respecting junior or senior will have anything to do with them. And the themselves judge the students- suprise!!!! Age is a huge thing when a person is under 18, believe me. And, yes, those relationships are never really relationships. What can a 14 year old possibly know about a relationship? My D tell me that at her school the seniors dating freshman have been rejected by kids their own age because of immaturity, being players, being jerks, or worse. </p>
<p>As for it being a ridiculous generalization- too bad...if you looked at the 18 year olds dating 14 year olds....what are those 18 year olds like?</p>
<p>PS Age does mean something- absolutely, don't be in denial about that.</p>
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<p>ahh your points are very pragmatic and I agree with most of them! </p>
<p>All I'm trying to get it is you can't judge people by age (I see you disagree).<br>
Lets take a 14 old male SENIOR in high school for example, lets say this 14 year old was in a relationship with a 17 year old senior. Lets even go as far as to say this 14 year old had his mother die when he was 12 and he has gone through a lot more in his life than most highschoolers. We could even say this 14 year old is president of his class and well liked by everyone; hes not some introverted genius. And I assure you, people like that do exist... Surely, that doesnt sound as horrible as a 14 year old female freshman and some senior? </p>
<p>Im just trying to say that context and people matter...not a number that denotes how many someones been around the sun.</p>
<p>I think you guys are looking into this too hard. Dating now isn't what is was like in your days, it's not like you kiss someone then they'll be your husband or wife someday. You just get with someone you want to hang out with or think is attractive.</p>
<p>Frank frank frank- people matter of course, and if in some twists of fate a senior was 14 (strange but oh well) why not let that 14 year old still be kid, which they are? Still 14 is 14 is 14....</p>
<p>and its kind of sexist of you to say its okay for an older girl to date a much younger boy than vice versa....sigh</p>
<p>Not to butt in, but I used to be so annoyed when my mother wouldn't let me date the older guys when I was a frosh. I couldn't really relate to the guys in my grade, and I felt like I fit in a lot better with the older people. However, now that I am older I can see why my mom felt the way she did, and I would feel the same about my own child. Seniors and freshman are just completely different, if not socially then at least developmentally (emotion-wise)...no matter how well you feel like you connect or whatever.<br>
That said, now that I am 18 I don't really go for guys my own age...but I am 18 and I think that there isn't as big of a difference since I am (basically) "grown up" so to speak. So, I guess the point is, if you really feel that strongly for the person, wait until they are a more mature, more experienced, and OLDER. Not to say that they are immature, but there are just inherent differences between seniors and freshman that are unavoidable.</p>