Please share your stories.
I hate being sexiled. So much! My roommate can be a cool guy but sometimes I want to throw him and his “girl”(more like one night stand) out of window and lock them out until they kneel to me and say worry,
Is there any common agreement for a reasonable number of times in a …month…(week?) that he can sexile you? Or is there no upper limit?
No…I came in spring term and it was AFTER the residents filled in roommate agreement.
It’s quite irritating and he being stubborn and I-am-right attitude makes it worse.
Oy, I think I will be very glad to have my own room. Those situations must be a bit awkward.
This is silly. Roommate agreements aren’t a binding contract or anything. Tell him that he’s doing it to often and set an upper limit.
I’m not saying to be a dick, but there’s nothing he can do if you say “no”. He would have to leave if he has a problem with it.
Is about 4 times a month a lot?
Once a week? He needs to make his own arrangements somewhere that doesn’t affect another person quite that much.
But, in the meantime, at least tell us what the “signal” is.
He just makes arrangement with random girls and tell me a day~several hours before she comes over.
You do have the right to say no. This is shared living space, and there are times that you simply can’t just take off with a few hours notice. Being asked to leave occasionally for these things is acceptable. But it sounds like it’s happening a lot.
@paul2752 Well, at least he gives you sufficient warning, although a stubborn/I-am-right attitude definitely does not sit well with me. I agree with @baktrax: just because there’s a roommate agreement doesn’t mean you two shouldn’t set some ground rules here. It’s part of being a good roommate.
Um, I didn’t say anything about roommate agreement being an absolute oath or something
So, she just arrives at the appointed time and you just excuse yourself and leave?
I know, but it was implied that the reason you didn’t set limits was because of the roommate agreement. That was your answer to JustOneDad’s question, after all.
@Marisa58 Um, no? Maybe the way I wrote was misleading
@JustOneDad yeah.
@paul2752 I don’t want to argue with you about this, but it is the second response in this thread.
I don’t understand why you addressed this to me. Unless I’m misunderstanding what you’re saying, you said the exact same thing I did.
@baktrax Wasn’t meant to be addressed to you. My bad.
Eh, four times a month isn’t much as long as he’s not taking up the room for longer than 2 hours. I have friends who’re sexiled four times a week, and feel bad for them, but four in a month isn’t too bad.
He’ll send you out for a few hours and then you can come back and sleep, or he’ll stay with the girls for an entire night and not let you back in? If it’s the latter, that’s messed up. The former, eh–it’s college.
I agree with Vctory…if you can’t sleep in your room, then not cool. If he is asking for a couple of hours, then go study.