Hi! I know there’s probably lots of forums with situations similar to mine, but here’s mine.
I’m from South Carolina and I decided to go to school in Florida. Jacksonville to be specific. It’s 6 hours away from my parents. I was fine my freshman year, I think because it was new and fun.
I moved into an apartment a few weeks ago in Jacksonville, because I’m in online classes.
Every time I have to leave my parents house I can’t stop crying and I’m just so upset. I feel like it’s normal to be homesick but not to the point that I’m crying for days before I’m set to leave my house in a south carolina. I hate leaving my friends and my family and my dog. I’m in a sorority but I don’t really like it, as I was hoping this would be a great way to make friends. I go to University of North Florida and I would be transferring to either Clemson or University of South Carolina.
All of my friends know I’m not happy here because it’s really boring and I miss my parents a lot. It’s a really far drive and I’m very close to my parents. I just don’t know what to do, and I don’t know if this is just a part of college, or if choosing a college 6 hours away was the wrong decision.
If you have any advice, I would appreciate it so so much!!
Be mindful that if you plan on transferring, you should decide soon. The deadline for the Fall semester for both universities is today, July 1. They extend beyond the deadline sometimes so you may be in luck, assuming you haven’t started your applications.
I don’t think you made any wrong decision and it’s not pointless to question the decision you made in high school to attend UNF, but that’s really not a relevant factor hear, at least in my mind. My advice would be to talk to your parents, friends, and/or a counselor about your situation. Don’t create false reasons for leaving either; be honest with yourself and whoever you speak to about this and also, make sure USC and CU have your field of study aha.
I’m not questioning your credibility here but being a student at a very small, secluded school in the northeast, I find it hard to believe UNF is boring. Boring intellectually? Boring socially? You don’t like your sorority–why? These are things to think about too.
My lease is up December 31st, so I’m actually considering transferring for Spring 2019! I’m doing campus tours in August of both, because the deadline to apply for those are around November/December.
Both schools have my major, and both schools would transfer all of my credits except for about 2 classes. So they’re pretty equal.
I joined a sorority here in Jax to make friends, and I’ve only made about 2 friends from it. I knew sororities were cliquey, but I didn’t expect them to be this cliquey. No one really talks to each other outside of our own groups. I’ve tried, but it’s just not the dynamic.
I’m sure there are other towns/schools that are more boring than Jacksonville, but socially it’s very boring. We’re not allowed to have tailgates, no football teams, no frat houses, nothing. There are sometimes frat parties, but I hate going to them because it’s always a small house and like 300 people. Even if I wanted to go to them, there’s only frat parties probably one every two weeks. The beach bars are 21+ and there’s only 1 club here that’s 18+, and it’s downtown Jax. The only thing I do here in Jacksonville is go to the beach, which is why I came here in the first place.
I haven’t made a lot of friends, and all of my other friends from back home go to USC and clemson and they love it.
I know this sounds like I’m complaining a lot, and if I liked Jacksonville I wouldn’t be this whiny. But in my mind, if I’m missing home THAT much AND I’m not loving where I am, I still have good options back home.
Clemson is about an hour from my parents house, and USC is about an hour and a half, so I wouldn’t move back home but I’d be so so much closer.
Well, to me it sounds like you’ve made your decision already. My advice from here on out would be to continue to try to make the most of your Fall semester at UNF. Though all of your friends are at home, there are definitely numerous people like yourself at UNF, you just have to find them. Also, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be with friends at home but be aware that these relationships don’t hold you back from making new friendships as well.
Best of luck being admitted to USC and/or Clemson. Tough choice would be choosing which one if accepted to both, but you’ll figure it out. GL!
Transfer !!! When in my mid-20s, I spent six months in Jax for a training program. I did know enjoy it & I lived directly across the street from the beach.
Crying every time you are about to leave home is not good. Transferring might be your best option, or it might not be necessary. But right now I think you should march yourself into the student counseling center and talk with a professional about your sad feelings. Right now you think they will go away if you study closer to home. You need a plan in place in case that turns out not to be true.
As an aside, I read a report a few days ago that predicted that Ponte Vedra Beach will be gone in about 25 years due to rising tides caused by global warming. Get out now while you still have a chance !
