<p>My sister and I go to the same university. We don't take classes together and rarely see each other on campus. She is 27 and I'm 22. She likes to pick at me a lot to the point where its starting to stress me out.</p>
<p>She never bumps into me on campus so she is always saying things like do you even go to school. It ****es me off because just because she doesn't see me doesn't not mean I'm not on campus. </p>
<p>She spends most of the day in the library. I go to the library once or twice a week and spend 2-3 hours there. She says I'm not a real student just because my whole day is not spent in the library. I usually like to do my homework at home at night. Is that bad? Should students spend most of their time in the library?</p>
<p>Also she diminishes everything I do. If I say I have 2 papers to write she'll say "oh thats nothing you got it easy I have 4 lab reports to do".</p>
<p>She knows that it irritates me and and I try to tell her in so many ways to stop messing with me but it goes in one ear and out the other. I can't deal with her constantly picking on me so I decided that Im going to avoid all her calls and pretty much cut her off completely. I mean what else can I do? Any advice?</p>
<p>It sounds to me like she’s just being annoying. If you’ve already tried talking to her about it and she still keeps doing it, I would just talk to her less. I don’t know if cutting her out entirely is the answer, but I definitely wouldn’t talk to her as often and especially not when you’re already in stressful situations (like during finals week, when you have a lot of stuff to do, etc). If she asks why you’re avoiding her, just say you were busy with school =D Hopefully, eventually she’ll get the hint.</p>
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<li><p>She’s already tried telling her, and it didn’t do anything. If her sister is 27 and is still acting like a child, then she’s probably not going to change anytime soon. This is really about preserving your sanity, and picking a fight doesn’t really seem like it’ll do much good.</p></li>
<li><p>It’s a snide way of referring to her remarks about how you’re not a “real student” because you don’t spend all of your time at the library or because she never sees you on campus. You’re too busy with school (and life) to deal with her right now. Sorry, sis.</p></li>
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<p>It is really pathetic a sister nearing her 30th birthday feels the need to act like a bratty middle school teeny bopper toward a much younger sister. </p>
<p>Keep that in mind every time she acts this way and don’t feel any guilt in tossing the teenybopper label against her if you feel the need. </p>
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<p>Although I myself spent a lot of time in the library, I never spent the entire day there. </p>
<p>One good comeback I have seen used is “Are you so slow/dim that you need to spend THAT MUCH TIME IN THE LIBRARY?” Of course, I’d think this only works if your grades are the same/better than hers. </p>
<p>This comeback is also partially derived from assumptions I’ve observed of some parents/students here on CC that someone who spends all day studying in the library/anywhere else throughout the semester is either an “excessive grind/nerd” and/or not very bright for needing to expend so much time in doing so. </p>
<p>I have trouble studying at the library; I study better when I’m at home where there’s actual silence. At the library, I’m subjected to the sounds of people coughing, sneezing, and whatnot. And since I have very sensitive hearing, I’m easily distracted by them. Even the sound of someone’s footsteps walking along the floors can make me lose focus, as well as people whispering or talking lowly to each other from a few distances away (the one time I studied there, I was able to hear an entire conversation between some students a couple of feet away even though they were speaking in hushed voices).</p>