<p>When my two children were in middle school and high school, an online grading system allowed parents to check their child’s grades on a daily basis. With my oldest child, I developed quite an addiction to this feature, and I would review her grades and nag her when her grades were not at least a “B”. Her response was, “Stop bugging me. It will all average to a B.” And it always did. By the time my oldest daughter was in 11th grade, I decided that I needed to wean myself from the online system, and give my daughter the responsibility for keeping up her grades. What I discovered in the next, two years was that her grades did not change at all (some A’s and mostly B’s). </p>
<p>Since my youngest daughter has been in high school and both have been in college, their grades have been their responsibility. I offer encouragement and view their final grades and nothing else.</p>