Hi everyone! I am a girl! I’ve searched on the internet with various search words, but I can’t find any advice relevant to my situation, and I find the posts I read on here both constructive and pleasant. So I would be honored on any thoughts you have.
So I live in a suite. Everyone is so friendly and pleasant and they are also relatively close. Not like best friends, but they made the conscious decision to live together that year because they lived on the this same floor before and got to know each other. But they are seriously so friendly I think at least two of them gave me random hugs haha.
One of the girls is from my high school and she is also super nice and we were actually roommates freshman year in this same dorm; now in my junior year I moved back, and since she stayed on the floor from the beginning till now, she had a say in who got to live where, so I got to be in a suite with her and all the awesome friendly people.
At the beginning of the year (September) I was looking forwards to get to know them and we chatted and also like a fourth of the way through the semester I hung out in one of their rooms and talked with some of them for an hour or two.
However, I became stressed, and the semester became busier, and I have acted pretty antisocial towards them. Of course I have done this before in my other living places, but I never thought about it as much. You know how you see your suitemates whether you want to or not because you pass by each other when going toward the bathroom or just passing through the lounge area or cooking in the kitchen, etc.? Well that’s what happens anyways. Everytime they are so friendly that they always talk to me, sometimes just a comment, sometimes actual potential conversations which I know are important to get to know people and get closer to them. , But I always make short answers and hurry to end the conversation as smoothly as possible(aka not really) and then run to my room. Also, many of them work in the lounge. Sometimes they are all speaking a different language so it’s not too big a deal, but when my friend from high school and another suitemate who just speak english go to the lounge to work, it’s a chance to join them, but I don’t want to; not only can i not concentrate on my work, but I also would feel pressured to make conversation.
It’s not that I’m completely bad at socializing I think, despite being naturally introverted; when I know it is what I must do and I have no deadlines, I will direct all my efforts and usually I can make a few friends and good conversations in social setting. I also have no problem with my being antisocial when I have finals or tests or homework to do. But what I feel really bad about is when I don’t even have anything totally pressing, all I want to do is go and do what I want (by myself) to rest my mind and myself in general. Socializing, for me, is not relaxing, no matter how nice the people.
If you read all this, THANKSSS. I guess my question is…am I the one being weird? And please, any comments/advice in general would go such a long way!
–Girl