<p>Hi. I really need some advice on what to do with my suite mate. I transferred to a 4 year school for fall semester and had 3 suite mates. 2 were close friends but the other was just placed in room like I was the year before and me and her became friends. Her name is Suzanne and she did spend a lot of time in her room last semester cause we both didn't like old roommates. This semester the 2 old roommates left and we got a new roommate, Tara. In the beginning of the semester we were all close and would hang out together. Suzanne was always negative and sarcastic and I just couldn't take her drama anymore so I started ignoring her. After a few days she finally got the nerve to ask me If I was mad at her and I told her and we worked things out. A few days later she spends the whole afternoon in her room and Tara texts her but she ignores it. So I become mad again cause were her friends and she is ignoring us? She ended up just being depressed about some assignment she thought she did bad on but later found out she got a 90. Ugh I hate her. She is always sad about how she thinks she did but is really actually smart. If she wanted to ignore me and Tara I was going to ignore her. I just gave her short answers and didn't talk as much as we used to but then she talked to me and I just kinda got over it. This was all before spring break. After break she started spending a lot of time in her room again like she did last semester. I diddnt get why she was ignoring us. She tried to explain how she was introverted but that doesn't make sense since she wasn't like that before break. A few weeks ago she got sick for a few days and went to the ER cause school infirmary sucks and posted on fb about how she was there and didn't tell us. When she was back to room Tara texts her and asks why she isn't spending time with us anymore. Her dumb reply was that she's been sick and before that realized how introverted she is. She said she tried to hang out with us in beginning since she never had friends as roommates before but slowly realized hanging out with us just watching tv tires her out. I feel like she is so fake and just hates us. I came back drunk thursday night at 2am and Tara was still awake so we just talked out in the hallway. About 20 minutes later Suzanne comes out of her room and flips out at us for talking. I haven't even seen her for like 2 weeks except for the occasional walking past me on campus. She was mad cause she has so much hw to do and needs sleep. Well don't we all? I live here too and want to have fun. Im sick of her introvertedness and getting mad at me for just talking. We weren't even loud. I don't know if I should move out next year or just deal with her. It will cost $250 to change rooms but she is really annoying me. Some people tell me Im wrong but I really think Im right in this situation.</p>
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<li>Get over yourself.</li>
<li>If you’re bothered so much by her, move.</li>
<li>Jesus Christ it’s not okay to be loud/obnoxious at 2AM, no matter how derped the sleep schedules of everyone around you are.</li>
<li>She doesn’t want to hang with y’all. That’s her choice. Get over it.</li>
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<p>I’m sorry, but I sympathize with Suzanne, not you. You sound like a horrible suitemate for not respecting her space. Just because she tried to hang out with you in the beginning and ended up not liking it, does not make her fake. Plenty of people try to work it out with their roommates/suitemates in the beginning, only to find that they don’t click with their roommates/suitemates.</p>
<p>Hey. So here is the thing… dont get mad. Im actually Suzanne. My roommate (Lauren) who I pretend to be was always making me feel guilty and like she was right. So I decide to be her and see if other people agreed with her. Obviously not. Im right. I always try to put myself in the other person’s shoes which can be emotionally draining for me. Anyway its finals week and Lauren was home for the weekend and just posted on twitter about how she is mad about coming back just for finals, has no motivation, and is going to wing them all. I have 6 finals. 3 at 8am during the week. If she is loud cause she doesnt care I dont know what to do. Isnt it common sense to be quiet. But she will says she lives there too. She isnt loud exactly but when she talks by my door it wakes me up. I honestly cant see where she is coming from. She has no reason to act like this except for she is rude. I did enjoy hanging out with Lauren and Tara but I realized it does tire me out and when Im home I dont want to see people cuase I am an introvert. It would probably be easier for me not to have friends as roommates like previous years. But I cant change this situation now since I did become friendly with them and now they just hate me. Well Lauren is the one who doesnt understand and kinda controls Tara.</p>
<p>Haha, that’s twisted and clever of you. </p>
<p>I would look into buying earplugs as a short-term solution until you’re both feeling neutral enough to talk about her late-night talking without something blowing up. If you phrase it correctly (note the difference between “I know I’m an unusually light sleeper, and you aren’t that loud, but when you talk by our door, it wakes me up.” versus “You’re being really obnoxious and inconsiderate when you keep talking outside our room when I’m trying to sleep.”), she might be more willing to listen and compromise. Unless she IS being that loud, in which case, maybe some of your dorm neighbors can support you. </p>
<p>I can be an introvert sometimes too, so I can sympathize, but just occasionally let Lauren and Tara know what’s going on with you or plan to do something every once in a while. It may be exhausting for you, but they’ll appreciate that you’re trying. Maybe tell them the kinds of things you did together that were relatively fun (maybe you liked watching movies or getting dinner, but partying wasn’t really your thing). They’ll just have to accept that their idea of fun isn’t always your idea of fun. </p>
<p>If they continue to be a problem, look into getting a single room.</p>
<p>Regardless of which girl in the story you are, you sound whiny and like you’re just looking to start drama. If your suitemate is being loud, explain that you have early finals and ask her nicely to keep the noise down when you’re sleeping. If she’s already being reasonably quiet and it’s still waking you up, get yourself some earplugs, figure out how to sleep with the noise.</p>
<p>Trying to make your suitemate look bad or get others to agree with you on here (posing as her to make you look good) honestly isn’t going to help you. If you have problems, work it out with your suitemate. Don’t come on here *****ing and looking for sympathy, it’s not going to fix your problems.</p>