Hey y’all. Sorry to hear about your deferrals. I’m currently a junior at Yale and was deferred from Stanford three years ago today. The following year I kind of ran the Stanford 2018 deferral thread, and this was my original post. I figured I’d repost it here and refer you guys to the thread because I think it’s got some good content.
"Okay, I’m NOT a 2018 Stanford REAer. But I WAS deferred from Stanford last year. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. There is life after deferral…actually, there’s a pretty fantastic life after deferral.
Here is post #1138 from the REA discussion thread that I threw up yesterday (modified slightly to fit the situation…)
I knew I wanted to go to Stanford for five years by the time I applied. I was absolutely in love with the school and for me, it was Stanford or bust. I eagerly applied REA and patiently waited a grueling six weeks for my decision. I ended up getting a deferral, which I was really angry about. I knew that I would end up being either accepted or rejected and I wanted them to tell me right then, not three and a half months later. My pride was a little hurt, but I buckled down and submitted 12 other college applications (Harvard, Yale, Dartmouth, Duke, Johns Hopkins, Northwestern, Washington University in St. Louis, Cal Poly SLO, Rose Hulman, Yale NUS, and my state school). Just three weeks after submitting these applications in the hopes that I would get into at least one good school (I really thought I’d end up at Northwestern), I got a call from my Yale admissions offer telling me that I had gotten a likely letter and they wanted me to come visit campus. I spent the weekend of President’s Day being courted by a phenomenal school but couldn’t figure out why Stanford didn’t want me if Yale thought I was such a hot commodity. If I was in the top 100 applicants of Yale’s 27,000, why wasn’t I in the top 700 of Stanford’s 6,000? It didn’t make sense. I loved Yale but still thought I wanted to go to Stanford. A few days after coming back from Connecticut, I got a likely letter from Harvard in the mail. Once again, I was in the top 200 applicants of Harvard’s 30,000, but not in the top 700 of Stanford’s 6,000.
On March 29th, 2013 at 4pm I sat on my bed with my phone and hesitated before checking my email. I didn’t even know if I wanted to get in at that point. I mean, I really loved Yale, but my whole family desperately wanted my to go to Stanford. Getting in would make things confusing. I opened my email, found that I was accepted and was really happy. I called my mom and told her in a voice that shook with excitement. This is what I had always wanted. Right?
Then came the hard part… I had offers from Yale, Harvard, MIT, and Stanford (along with plenty of the others I applied to - ironically I was waitlisted at Northwestern). I narrowed it down to Yale and Stanford pretty quickly (for financial and weather reasons), but agonized over the decision from there. I did resent Stanford for deferring me and I knew that Yale WANTED me. I waited until 12 minutes before the deadline to decide…take a look at my username and you’ll figure out where I am now (hint, it’s not “cardinal2017”).
Basically what I’m trying to say is this:
- You WILL survive this deferral
- You WILL love your college, no matter where you go
- There is a school out there that WANTS you
- Sometimes what you think you want for your whole life doesn’t turn out to be what you actually want when push comes to shove
I am now a happy Yalie (hey, you all should apply here!) and I don’t regret my decision one bit. If I had been accepted early, I would be writing this from Palo Alto and not New Haven. In reality, this is the place for me to be, to grow as an academic and a person, and I’m almost grateful that I didn’t get in REA because admissions pushed me to explore my East Coast options.
I know you might be bitter now, but things will work out. I promise.
I’d rather have you guys post questions here instead of PMing me so that I don’t have to answer the same questions over and over again and also so it will be on the interwebs for all posterity. If I do get a PM related to this thread, I’ll post the question and my response here anyway."