<p>Move off campus. Get an apartment all your own, or move in with your boyfriend.</p>
<p>It all depends if you have an emotional affinity with her. If you do not care, then you should be aware of two things:
- She might be not proving anything. This is your point of view. If you had acted in this way, you would be proving yourself. But she MAY simply like it, and regard as a physical pleasure, exactly like those mens who act in the same way...</p>
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<li>She is an adult, and independant unit. You cannot force her to anything. Depending on the ethics theory which you like most, you have more or less freedom in influencing her by specific arguments and explanations. But it works in both of ways. She cannot force you to anything, and you are certainly forced!
Mind you, If I were you I would descent from the bed and started to talk with them about ethics, about myself. If they are acting like it is a normal thing, I would do the same, making them a bit confused probably...</li>
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<p>But more ethical is changing the room. If your college refuse her to stay - it is her fault. Colleges might not want such people, and she should be aware of that. Where are laws, is the responsibility...</p>
<p>Good luck with your battle :).</p>
<p>If it would appear, that I am wrong, and she really has a problem, contact:
1) psychologist
2) Try yourself - reach her trust, and start to crack what she was doing earlier, and if she knows what she is doing... [projections/sublimations. You probably know what I mean. The example for sublimation: Child does not agree with parents. He knows it, and can substantiate. But he have to, since his parents have more power than he has. He is actually stronger [16 yo child training karate], so in nature, he would force them to take his point of view. But it is not nature. Because he cannot reach what he is regarding as correct, he have to make two 'states', for parents [sublimed] and for himself - his awareness.]. I could help you, but I am not professional. If she really has a problem, it is big problem, and good experienced therapeutist should show her that she does not see herself at all.</p>
<p>Cheers.
p.s.
If You want to, I could give you my AIM, to give some more thoughts. But now I have to learn for GRE. ;) [look at another post]</p>
<p>"or move in with your boyfriend"</p>
<p>OMG! WTF? Is this a she or a he? If it's a she, then she had sex with her room partner 7 times... if it's a he, then he's gay... confused.</p>
<p>Is she hot?</p>
<p>It's not about sex, it's about courtesy. And money: this whole college thing is too expensive (at, say, $125 a day) to have it ruined by someone with no manners and less sense. You can talk with her about the situation and how it is bothering you, and maybe set up a schedule. Or, you can just go to the RA and tell her its not working out.</p>
<p>ohio_mom is right - it isn't about sex, it's about respecting the other person's rights. If your roommate wanted to play loud music all night, host all-night poker parties, or turn the room into a dance hall, the issue would be the same.</p>
<p>whoa, what college are you at??? Hope I can still apply...
Actually, that's amzing, amazingly terrible. What the hell. Just slap the hell out of her or something. I think it's time to be confrontational. WOW. but one more question...is she still not pregant? Cuz that def proves condoms or birth control totally work.</p>
<p>is she hot?</p>
<p>well this "roommate" has some issues huh
i think this "roommate" is going to need a season pass to the abortion clinic</p>
<p>good luck with your "roommate", silly</p>
<p>Hi There:
This situation is what a RA is for, so I wouldn't hesitate to ask to talk with him or her about this problem so you can find out your alternatives...ie how can you apply to transfer to another room, what is the wait to get out of your current pairing etc. Your roommate is not very interested in how you feel, (understatement), so don't get the notion you can reason with her, change her behavior or trust her to stop having sex with you also in the room because "now she knows it bothers you." (The fact that she doesn't care that it bothers you is not a good sign that this is a roommate you should try to keep. Many many of us had difficult first year roommate issues, so bear up and start thinking about a more tolerable living plan for yourself and don't feel guilty that she is not in your Plan.)<br>
When you do address her on this topic again, you can let her know what the options are regarding her moving out or you moving out, pledge to be as mellow and tolerant as possible while waiting for a changed roommate plan, but tell her firmly that you are not going to tolerate it anymore when you are in the room. It is AOK that she knows you brought her behavior up to the RA, and that you consider being in a room with her having intercourse to be "a problem." Duh. This is called natural consequence of grossly intrusive behavior, not you "betraying" her. It is possible that she will agree to not do this again, and to have some kind of signal on the door or whatever if she is entertaining someone-- but you should have access to your room almost all of the time, with only some effort to give her private hours there.<br>
Good luck waiting this one out....</p>
<p>Is she hot?</p>