<p>WashU...treating parents like people who just paid $40k. Love it.</p>
<p>mom60. She will probably come through okay. Dont' beat yourself up about a bit of indulgence though. That's another thing moms do well.</p>
<p>I can sympathize. My D is a freshman and I concerned about how her relationship with her b/f would proceed. She's attending a women's college near a major city while he's at a coed lac in upstate ny, known for being very friendly (you get the picture). </p>
<p>So, I'm bracing myself for the phone call. He's been down for a weekend visit already and she's visiting him this weekend since they are both on fall break. Things seem to be working out but just waiting for the fateful call.</p>
<p>I get a chance to im her at the end of the day from work - she's getting ready to go to dinner and I'm getting ready to go home. It's a good time to touch base and things seem to be ok...she enjoys her school with its classes, profs and supportive community, even after a stressful week of midterms. But what concerns her is why she doesn't "love" her school, as so many of her friends do. It's good but not "amazing." </p>
<p>So, maybe it's the "grass is greener" dilemma or the b/f situation. Can't tell but it is definitely an adjustment period and she seems to be getting through it.</p>
<p>But I hope I can be there for her when the chips begin to fall or when she needs a loving place to regroup. She's only 3 hrs away by car/bus so it's a short trip for a quick visit. The door is always open and her dog is waiting for her return.</p>
<p>Good job, mom60. (Another thing moms are good for - telling each we "did good" when our kids don't).</p>
<p>Two daughters, one a freshman and one a sophomore. Both are 3000 miles away. First one called last year, 3 weeks into school with what she thought was strep and ended up being mono. She sounded so sick and I was helpless to do anything but give her telephone advice. She insisted on staying but we were prepared to have her come home. I guess it was always on my mind that if my kids were miserable we would ask that they fulfill one semester but after the time if they were still unhappy then of course they could come back to the nest. I have heard from many people that the six week mark is a crucial time. The newness has worn off and they begin to feel a little homesick, thus most colleges schedule family weekends about that time. I would try to talk with her a little more and determine the nature of the problem and if possible attend the family weekend. In the meantime, breathe and pray, and my thoughts and prayers are with you.</p>
<p>Reading this thread has come in handy for this mom of a freshman
just starting an architecture major. Over the past 2 weeks my son has mentioned how much work is involved in this program. I have been very supportive telling him it is a big adjustment etc.... Today I spoke with him and he said that the school doesn't want their architecture students to sleep. That is their goal (his words not mine)</p>
<p>He understands that the first semester is always very tough but he sees other majors not working anywhere near the amount of hours required for his major. He spoke with upperclass students and they say the hours don't change - you just get used to very little sleep.</p>
<p>What has me concerned is he took 4 years of architecture classes in HS so he had a very good taste of what he would be doing, now he is saying that he is not sure that this is what he wants to be doing and that Industrial Design looks interesting. </p>
<p>Just to add that in the same conversation he has positive things to say about what he is doing and gets good feedback during critiques. I get mixed signals in our conversations but continue to encourage him to
stick with it and keep up the good work. I think it is too early for him to make a major decision like this. </p>
<p>How do you figure out if this is just the 6 week itch you are all talking about or more serious?</p>
<p>JVP1,</p>
<p>I hated my years in professional school, but I love my profession. He has to decide if the rigorous training is worth his ultimate goal of becoming an architect.</p>
<p>Why is the training so rigorous?</p>