So… long story short, my roommate out of NOWHERE started distancing herself from me. She went on a conference with her bestie for 2 weeks and has stopped engaging to me specifically. When she got back, respectfully, got mad cause I didn’t clean the stove good enough when I cooked and I apparently left some coffee grounds on counter. I was an adult and did apologize (since it’s her house I’m renting from) and have made a huge effort to be more clean, because I know it’s not my strength… but it’s like no matter what I do, I can’t please her. I don’t want to strive to make her happy… but dang, she didn’t even invite me out to dinner with the other roomate. I know I sound like I’m over reacting a bit… but I like to live in harmony with people. Any suggestions?!
Don’t overfocus on her. She doesn’t need to be your friend, just a roommate. Invest your time with other “real” friends and let this one go. Just try to get along with her, but start distancing yourself and look for friends elsewhere.
This seems like the best scenario… I’m just disappointed. I’m not going to give you my whole life story here, but I left my last home because of some similar unhealthy issues. My last roommate, who is also my sister, treated me the same way. She didn’t invite me to her engagement party… because I asked her to get rid of her cats… because they peed on my bed. (Multiple times) She kicked me out of the apartment and out of her wedding as MOH, because I asked her to give me the deposit back because her fiancé took my place, so he owed me. She said that wasn’t right and they didn’t have any money and needed money for the wedding. She eventually threatened to call the cops on me if I didn’t leave. Not trying to always blame myself… but seriously?! Ugh I guess I care too much about what people think… still hurts!