You’re in prison and you don’t belong to any gang or group so you’re the odd one left out. And it is a small, rural isolated prison so nothing is likely to change until you leave this unhealthy environment & let yourself grow. Trying to force a square peg into a round hole is not growth, it is an exercise in futility. Rather than accepting yourself, you are trying to adjust to what you think that others want you to be. Probably necessary for survival in prison. But you don’t have to be in prison. You can leave.
Trying too hard to connect with others will just accentuate the fact that you are feeling lonely & isolated. It is not going to get better for you in this environment unless you stay to yourself & pursue something that is of interest to you. How you pursue that interest is key. Stop trying to rely on others. You can exercise alone, you can read alone, you can study abroad alone. If you don’t truly like or love yourself, then neither will others. Just the way it works. You need self respect, not the respect of others at this point in your life.
Last April I posted in one of your prior threads & suggested that you transfer schools. I suggested that because you are in the wrong type of environment for you. Small rural cliquey LAC where most of the students live on campus. Wrong environment for you. You need a much larger school with a more diverse student population. And preferably a larger commuting community. Isolating oneself to this type of environment compounds the problem of not fitting in by putting too much emphasis on your loneliness. You need to occupy your mind with other types of thought.
In order to fit in at this school, you need to change those around you. That is not going to happen. Learn to like yourself. Understand that this school was & is a bad match for you. Therapy is an attempt to define a problem & then to change yourself by changing the way you think & the way you behave. But that isn’t the problem here. Therapy should be telling you that you are fine but that your environment is not conducive to your development in a healthy fashion.
Solution: Study abroad, transfer and/or study elsewhere during the summer in order to accelerate your graduation date if you stay. It’s not you.
Unfortunately in this type of small, rural, isolated, cliquey environment, you are pegged with an identity early on that isn’t going to go away. Stop beating your head against a wall. They are not going to change. And you are never going to change enough to please them. Wrong environment. Do your time by yourself. Get out & grow in a more suitable, healthier atmosphere. The best thing that you can do for now is to understand that you will never change enough to be accepted by them. Nor should you. You are in a temporary situation for a very short time of your young life.