<p>thats a funny comment from your daughter… lol Who knew one had to beg a school to let us spend 50k plus at their school, lol… It’s like begging the car dealer … like I say live and learn.</p>
<p>The thing is, some kids ARE in love with certain colleges. And if they are, there’s no reason why that shouldn’t actually be part of the mix of factors. In any case, that’s what job hunting is like these days, too. You’re supposed to know all kind of things about the company you’re applying for when you go to the interview. Come to think about it, it’s probably an excellent exercise for students, annoying as it is. Because in an era when kids apply for 15 colleges, these colleges might well want some indication that your kid has an interest in going to their colleges. And it doesn’t hurt the kid to have some specific thoughts on what kind of college he or she would like to go to.</p>
<p>Momma17777–I’m not sure why your child doesn’t like the idea of the very exclusive LAC in the east? Based on the idea that he’s intelligent but introverted, it sounds ideal to me. What is his objection?</p>
<p>Yes you can ID a college that you love and work to get in , but without the expectation that you will. Sometimes with all they are dealing with it’s hard to get kids to be that clear cut. Kudos to those who are.</p>
<p>I have spoken to a couple of admissions officers who told me that they could truly see kids who love their school. I know I saw it in my son when he found the school for him. It was a first for me as none of my other kids were struck that way, but they did really like some schools much more than others.</p>
<p>Haven’t been back in a while. Went for final “tours” of contenders. In reply to Endicott, I am not sure what my Son objections are except that its distance, his “friends” are going to another school and the cost. He feels that large flagship is cheap and friends are going so might as well go there. They other one is expensive and he might have loans when he graduates. I am fearful that it isn’t cheap if he doesn’t finish. He hasn’t been a social butterfly by any means and the large flagship is mostly known for sports and social life, not for academics. Unfortunately, when he visited the other LAC his host tried to sneak him into a party which he says he didn’t want to go to and since he was staying with this other kid, he felt “forced” to go. Not sure about that. Worries me that if he didn’t want to go, he felt he had to and didn’t stick up for himself. Now, I am not sure either one is the right place. Help! Maybe I just have the mom version of senioritis.</p>
<p>Maybe I just have the mom version of senioritis - LOL Don’t we all?</p>
<p>Yup, peppermintlounge, I think I definately do! Now for the nice weather to kick in and summer here I come LOL. No matter what son decides, I still have one summer to enjoy before he ventures off and come rain or shine I plan to make the most of it!</p>
<p>One of my favorite expressions is that the last inch is the longest mile. I have been using it a great deal these days as I wait for the final decision amoung schools that DS is not thrilled with. As was everything with this offspring, everything - even the decision - is 11th hour. And, everything keeps me watching to the point of maximium anxiety - that it will not get done, or a decision will not be made. Here’s to 11:59 time stamps.</p>
<p>Momma
I think it was hard to resist his host pushing the party. I’ve heard many tales of kids being turned off or on just by the host. Its easier if several prefrosh are placed in same setting, and offered various choices for evening entertainment. Unfortunately, the experience left a sour taste in your S’s mouth. But, did he spend time with other students? other prefrosh? I would hate to see your S make a decision based on one person.</p>
<p>Hey Bookworm, I agree. I thought about calling the admissions office and suggesting that they have some other students call and introduce themselves, but being so far away from the school, I don’t know if that would do anything. Dad is pretty much resigned to just decide something and mail a check at this point. He hates the 11th hour. Son really didn’t get much time to spend with anyone else because the student he was with sort of dumped him in the auditorium at 8:30AM for the presidents address and disappeared. He called me and I took the days tours with him. We had to go back to his room to get my son’s stuff and host was nowhere to be found. Son was very tired all the next day of the tour and seemed sort of bored but I think just tired and hungry. I didn’t find out until around 11:30 in the morning that the kid didn’t even take him to the dining hall before he dumped him, so he didn’t eat all morning. Think it was just a bad experience all around. Wish now that I never took him. :(</p>
<p>Normally student hosts do not babysit the pre-frosh visitors. They have classes to attend themselves, and they would assume a pre-frosh would seek out other pre-frosh to hang out with (from the pres. address in auditorium). I suspect the host assumed your son would find his own way to the dining hall if he was hungry. He may need some encouragement and summer opportunities to develop independence to handle the life skills of college.</p>
<p>Fauve, I totally agree. At this point, he needs to decide, per dad. So, I guess its throw him in and see if he can swim. I don’t really think either is a good idea right now, but I am overruled. With four other kiddos to attend to, mom doesn’t really have time to babysit either. That is one of the reasons I thought smaller school with more “handholding” would be better. Don’t really relish the idea of navigating the red tape and regulations at large U. If he doesn’t clear a 3.7, he loses place in Honors and with a 3.25 loses the scholarship too. Keep your fingers crossed for him.</p>
<p>My daughter really embraced the opportunity to speak in front of a larger audience. She practiced, worked on her delivery, and her presence… she really made us proud!! Wow!! She started strong, and ended stronger… wow!!</p>
<p>momma17777
What did S decide to do?</p>