My family members and friends have ridden the train of my college admissions process from the beginning. They usually just listened and gave some generic responses but as time grows closer to decision day, their voices have grown louder. My parents…grandparents…extended family members…family friends. It seems like they all have something to say! I respect their input and I nod and smile, but I feel helpless. It’s my decision but I feel like whatever I do, someone won’t be happy. The main outcry is “no debt” which I completely understand. But along the way, their unique opinions have definitely formed.
I want to go into pharmacy and have wanted to do that since I was in 8th grade. I’ve definitely considered other professions and have appropriate backups but pharmacy is my top plan. I haven’t changed my mind and the closer I get to going off to college, the more excited I get. I know a lot of people change their minds and majors when they get to college, but I feel it’s one of those things where I’ll tackle it when it happens. For now, I don’t really want to worry about it.
My grandmother is the only person who disapproves of my profession choice and wants me to go into something different (The something different is an unknown factor at this point). I understand she worries that I’ll change my mind or not like it or it won’t pan out, but she hasn’t been very supportive of my career/major choice at all. She wants me to take on minimal to no debt at a local school (which is no problem for me) but just do four years in something else. (Again, the something else is unknown…)
My parents are supportive of my career choice and want me to have minimal to no debt. Mom wants me to go to the local school; Dad is leaning towards the selective school (if I’m even accepted and the financial aid is good) I haven’t found out yet. I understand both sides but the problem with the selective school is no direct or even pre-pharmacy track. I’d be on my own applying to places where I would be drowning in debt for another four years. While I wouldn’t mind being the prestige monger at the bumper sticker school, I don’t feel like it’s the best academic fit based off of what I want to do. But then that brings up the side of the debate that goes “Well why don’t you just go into something where you only need like four years?” I’ve been accepted into 0-6 programs where I would have a guaranteed spot in pharmacy school but my mom is worried that I won’t like it and will be saddled with the debt and no job.
My grandfather, uncle, and a family friend are also leaning towards the selective route and think that a person with my scores shouldn’t just be going to the local school. They also tell me that I really should let myself be open to other career choices. I’m overall disappointed in everyone for not having enough trust in me to make this decision myself. I want to do pharmacy. It’s always been something I’ve wanted to do, and it just feels right to me. I’ve talked to different pharmacists and I’m still on-board with the whole plan. I haven’t changed my mind yet and obviously while I can’t guarantee my mind won’t change, I’m 99% sure it won’t change.
I considered other career paths: law, nutrition, writing…pharmacy always just stood out to me and it claimed my heart. I don’t regret having these people involved with my process but I just wish they didn’t have such STRONG opinions about all this. Because no matter what I do, I know I’ll be disappointing someone and I really don’t want to do that. As a parent, what’s your take on all this? Also sorry for the length.