<p>haha my parents don’t even care! i just got into cornell and my mom offered me a brief one-word “congratulations.” then she’s telling me that i could’ve done better (got into a “better” school) and that she wants me to pay even though she makes 500k a year. and it’s my birthday in 2 days (18 years old), and my parents say they’re going to be attending a party that night. and when i was like i want to buy a cornell sweatshirt the first thing my mom says is, “ok, that’ll be your birthday present.” and then when she finds out the sweater costs 70 bucks, she freaks. you need to remember she’s making 500k a year… i know that it’s not my money and that it’s my parents’ money, but still, she could at least not tell me to take out a student loan literally the second i see her after telling her i got accepted to cornell. at least try to show that you care. my effing teachers and counselor cared 1000x more than you! people that i don’t really even know at school care more than you! she honestly doesn’t give a da m n that i got into cornell. she spent all the time that i was with her today nitpicking at me. not that she doesn’t usually nitpick, but you’d think that she wouldn’t today. anyway, end rant/</p>
<p>Wuchu: I’m sorry that your parents aren’t celebrating your accomplishment with you. Their reaction is not normal and it’s okay for you to feel disapointed. It sounds like you have a difficult home situation. Congratulations on your acceptance to a wonderful school. I hope today at school your teacher, counselor and friends cheered you on.</p>
<p>@wuchu: Congrats to you! It sounds like you are a very, very strong person. Maybe your parents are just coming to terms with your impending absence? </p>
<p>Cornell is such a great school. You’ll be very happy there and able to forge ahead.</p>
<p>@wuchu: Wow, what an accomplishment! I hope you find people today who will celebrate with you, especially adults at school. I hope you then go to Cornell, find studies your are interested in, excell, and go on to be both successful AND a person who cares about others. Good luck! And congratulatoins.</p>
<p>Wuchu…Your parents attitude sounds very similar to many of my foreign clients who never praise their children or their accomplishments. Is it possible that your parents are not showing any excitement for you because they have a belief system that if you praise your child he will believe he has already succeeded. I think many foreign born parents believe if they praise their children openly they will not continue to excel…this is sad. I feel for you because I have watched this very same thing happen over and over with the people that I work with. I am sure that your parents are very proud of you but if this is a cultural thing it is very familar. You should be very proud of yourself and I am sorry that your parents have not recognized what a wonderful achievement this is. Perhaps you may find a way to express this to them.</p>
<p>Congratulations! Cornell is awesome and you need to pat yourself on the back for a job well done. I’m not sure what your parents agenda is by telling you that you need to take out a loan minutes after your acceptance.</p>
<p>I’m sure they care, but are not demonstrative! To tell you that you could have done better is so foolish, imo. We have friends whose two daughters go to Harvard & Cornell. They told me that the daughter at Cornell has harder courses, pressure, expectations, etc. Forget about the name! It was obviously a good choice for you and the Cornell people agreed!</p>
<p>That’s something to celebrate! HAPPY BIRTHDAY too!!!</p>
<p>Tell her to lay off the nitpicking. Tell her what you need from her. Make her sit down in front of you. Good luck.</p>
<p>Wuchu…congrats. Parents come in all sizes, shapes, colors and philosophies. My parents weren’t big huggers and never kissers…my friends thought it was hilarious that my parents shook my hand when I accomplished something great. That was just “their way” and a handshake to them was an equivalent gesture as all the huggers and kissers in the world. I “hug” my kids because I missed that when I was young…don’t kiss 'em can’t quite get that inbreeding out of me, but I do hug them and I love them just as much as the major huggers and kissers. I’m entirely sure your parents are very proud of you. Meanwhile all of us “cyber parents” are cheering you on - go get that sweatshirt ASAP – you’ve earned it!</p>
<p>No news, bad or good, for my kid yet, but good news for my cousin’s son (WUStL) and D1’s friend (Columbia). </p>
<p>D1 asked me to text her when I see that decisions are public so she can check online. She must have seen something in my face, because she then declared that I was going to say something “cheesy and helpful” and she didn’t want to hear it. LOL. Makes me think back to when we were writing a little handout booklet to use during her bat mitzvah. She complained it was cheesy. We then changed the cover art to lots of pictures of cheese, and gave that to the rabbi to proof. He was also amused.</p>
<p>This is giving me ideas for care packages for next year, no matter where she ends up. :)</p>
<p>Wuchu - hopefully you will take comfort in knowing that your parents’ behavior is shameful. Cornell is OUTSTANDING. Congratulations to you. Rise above their ignorance!</p>
<p>Congrats to all on the board, and particularly to Wuchu. You have already accomplished more than you realize!!!</p>
<p>My DS2 watched the results for Columbia and Cornell, as he had a friend in each applicant pool. The student for Columbia was admitted, and the student for Cornell deferred, which, given our hs’ history, was a very good result. My DS was somewhat circumspect at the admission - he was applying at Columbia as a super-reach but not ED, but knows it is highly unlikely given the other admit - I know - holistic and all that, but it just does not happen that the ivys take more than one kid from DS2’s hs per school, per year, if even. The kid who got in deserved the admission though…</p>
<p>DS2 has become a slob. That’s right - Mr. organized and neat has turned into Mr. sometimes organized but forever messy. I am an anxious parent…</p>
<p>Is this a match or reach? Does your child have others in the pipeline just in case? Think of the worst case scenario (and there could be many!) and then the waiting doesn’t feel so bad…there is ALWAYS another school that someone inevitably says that their child was accepted to and ended up loving!</p>
:D</p>