<p>Ok a lot of you will vilify me for this BUT
I was waitlisted at two schools that I'm pretty interested in. I haven't visited either and am not 100% positive which (if either) I'd attend over the school I'm depositing at, but I'm pretty sure I'd attend one of them. </p>
<p>So if I were to say outright on my little "let me reiterate that I love this school please take me off the waitlist" letter that I would definitely attend, would they get mad if I didn't? I mean obviously they'd be a little annoyed, but if I came up with an excuse (financial, family situation, whatever), would it get back to my school or anything? I mean I know they couldn't officially do anything about it, but I don't really want to be on an adcom hit list, you know?</p>
<p>So how much do they care and, since a lot of you will surely find this unethical, how unethical do you think it is and why? Remember that I'm not really "taking" a spot from someone else on the waitlist since at that point they'd just go to another person if I declined. </p>
<p>Thoughts? This waitlist crap has me half insane. It's such a game and I'm sort of sick of playing it, but I guess I'll stick it out for one more round.</p>
<p>The students who will be coming off waitlists this year will most likely be full-pay or near full-pay students. I think they are well versed in the sincerity of applicants and if you really demonstrate interest, they will probably take you. There are many reasons for not accepting their offer and I don’t think it would be held against you. At the same time, I can’t see them taking your “I will definitely attend” too seriously because of the possible circumstances.</p>
<p>I think sending “if you accept me, then I will definitely attend” is not too big of a deal because they know a lot of applicants do this and there’s no guarantee.</p>
<p>You know, I really doubt that a letter saying you will attend will make that much difference. If they go to the wait list and you fit the profile of the person they are looking for, they’ll probably call and ask if you will attend. Why go out on a limb now, especially since your conscience will bother you, and rightly so. It’s not good to lie. ;)</p>
<p>Just check the box and send in the form to stay on the list, and sleep well. Oh, and try to get excited about the school that you’re sending your deposit to. It’s very, very probable that that’s the school you’ll be attending.</p>
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<li><p>They won’t care.</p></li>
<li><p>They won’t care anything about that letter of love and beg to get off the waitlist either because it will likely have absolutely no impact on where you are in the order of those to be called off the wait-list.</p></li>
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