<p>Let me try to answer your question a little better, Grejuni. I have to use Middlesex as an example. I know people at MX who have been in relationships. There is one couple that has been going out for three years. In fact, when I was revisiting Saturday, I was hanging out in my friend's dorm. She pointed out at least 5 couples (10 people out of 350 students) dating. And I doubt that is all the couples in the school. However, I think hook-ups may be more prevalent than actual relationships.</p>
<p>I don't think most kids in high school "date" anymore...at least not the way we did when I was young (when dinosaurs roamed the earth.) However, "hooking up" is quite prevalent, and I believe that to be true whether you are at public or private high school, boarder or day.</p>
<p>Of course, one's definition of hooking up varies from group to group....</p>
<p>Thanks risingjunior and jennycraig. </p>
<p>I remember dinosaurs roaming too, I suppose...</p>
<p>I know at my son's current jr. prep (K-9) only the 9th graders are allowed any form of PDA and it's only hand holding and it's only outside buildings. Even at school dances, no kissing. My son visited the local high school last year and came home saying "there were kids making out all over the place, that's gonna haunt me for days." It was funny.
Most schools have rules about being in rooms/dorms/halls, etc of the opposite sex. At one we were told you can be in the room visiting, but the door needs to be open a certain distance and ALL feet must be on the floor at all times.<br>
My son's friends who are at BS this year, several of them are "going out" with someone.<br>
I will say it was interesting because one of the "selling" points to the boys at an all-guys school was this:
"At a co-ed school, when you have a girl friend, the girl wants you to eat breakfast with her, go to study hall with her, spend your free period with her, join a club with her, spend your time after study hall with her, eat dinner with her...our boys don't have to worry about that."<br>
I think a bunch of the Dads there wanted to go back to attend... :)</p>
<p>Linda, that post is a great advertisement for all boys, all girls schools. Very funny. :)</p>
<p>We were laughing, the older boys were too. I did see some younger boys who looked like they didn't have a clue what he was talking about.</p>
<p>this thread is very funny.....what about dating at choate?!?!?</p>
<p>i completely adore this thread...it's hilarious. bumps!</p>
<p>I'm going to Andover this fall as a sophomore and I'm suprised the faculty is so relaxed with it.</p>
<p>i guess dating doesn't happen much at single-sex schools huh?</p>
<p>Do some of you parents have issues with your kids dating? Wondering because I have friends whose parents refuse to let them date or have a boyfriend/girlfriend. It just strikes me as wrong because these kids do anyway and just hide it from their parents. When their parents are on campus they go to great lengths to hide their relationship. It's almost like a tv comedy! If my parents trust me enough to send me to boarding school shouldn't they trust me enough to handle this too? It seems silly that there isn't enough trust in these families that the kids feel like they have to hide things and lie to their parents.</p>
<p>yo!son, I think in most cases it's the parent not trusting the other party more than their own child.</p>
<p>As a parent, I would not forbid it b/c I would want my child to tell me. It would give me the opportunity to discuss potential pitfalls and to make sure it is a healthy relationship based on respect for each other.</p>
<p>i agree...even though im not a parent.....the worst thing to do is to lie about it.....</p>
<p>Bumpity bump!</p>
<p>This is interesting... I hadn't really considered that there's an added 'element' when you practically live with a potential boyfriend.</p>
<p>Yaaaa I don't really talk to my parents about that kind of stuff. They don't ask if I havv a gf or anything so I don't tell. They know if I were to do anything I'd be safe about it so there's no real reason to talk about anything. </p>
<p>If I go off to boarding school they'll probably try to talk to me a little and I'll be like I know and they'll shut up. So ya my parents don't mind as long as my grades always stay high.</p>
<p>that's one of the reasons my dad wont let me go to boarding school; boys. i tend to stray from his religion.....</p>
<p>um... does this mean that guys at exeter are not good looking? just wondering... :D someone prove me wrong.</p>
<p>actually. there are SOME hot guys at Exeter. not a lot, probably a small percentage. gonna be a problem if i attend cause, well, i need to be around hot guys and flirt.</p>
<p>A large portion of the Exeter guys are "metro"(According to a female that goes there). Maybe she meant the people she hangs around with are, but from what I can tell (THIS IS A GENERAL STATEMENT BY THE WAY) this was pretty accurate when I visited campus. That was just from one girl... It isn't god's law.</p>