What About Dating?

<p>I think that's just society, not boarding schools. : )</p>

<p>Well creative1, it's not as discouraged in dayschool in the evening as it is in a 24/7 BS environment!</p>

<p>grejuni - but in the evening in day school, you become your parents' responsibility :).</p>

<p>Well, yes. I would let her date and I would try to control the circumstances as well as any parent so that she wasn't in any dangerous situations etc. I guess I would allow, for example, PDAs ....</p>

<p>I think BS goes beyond this parental level to a pretty strict standard. Maybe I am wrong?</p>

<p>Nelly, does oregon really rain alot?</p>

<p>The schools I am familiar with allow a certain amount of intimacy e.g. hand holding, hugging, etc. Kissing when not in public is fine. These are communities with faculty families and kids after all. But healthy, respectful teenage relationships are not frowned upon in my experience.</p>

<p>In Asheville they don't have a problem with it... Just don't get to over the top with PDA.</p>

<p>Dazzlezzz, that was your 500th post... thought i should point that out haha
did you decide to go to asheville?</p>

<p>SQUEEEE!
502 posts Go me!!!</p>

<p>And yes, I'm in LOVE with the school... I want to blow off the rest of this school year and enroll TOMORROW!</p>

<p>At Middlesex you just go to the docks, apparently.
I think every school has a...place....for PDA. If everyone is PDAing, its slightly more socially acceptable. I bet the teachers avoid that area as best they can.</p>

<p>lol
take them down to the docks...
:)</p>

<p>people in my public middle school show PDA all the time. I'm sure theyr are not against the law or anything at BS.</p>

<p>they*</p>

<p>10 characters
32 seconds
24 seconds
12 seconds
13 seconds?!?</p>

<p>Whenever I visited my childrens' public middle and hs, there was always plenty of big-time PDA. Once, I was in a conference with my daughter's eighth grade math teacher and their were two students in the same room making out. Didn't seem to faze the teacher one bit. I've never witnessed anything more than hand-holding at the BS.</p>

<p>If keylyme's experience had occurred with my spouse in the room, there is no question that my spouse would have interrupted the students and confronted them loudly and obviously. Confronting the teacher would then have followed. An inadequate response from the teacher would have been followed by a visit to see the principal.</p>

<p>Any questions as to why our D wants to go to BS?</p>

<p>Yes, I was not assertive enough to say something. Instead, I sort of made a face and the teacher told them to "knock it off".</p>

<p>they might be discouraged, but it's not like they're forbidden right? i bet that it's just a little bit stricter than most public high schools since there are ROOMS and such and things might, ahem, happen.</p>

<p>LOL. This thread is just hilarious!</p>

<p>i know for sure dating goes on anywhere,
even if its not necessarily visible from the surface.
like think about it,
in elementary school everone had someone they were "going out with",
and so im sure in high school something goes on even if its not officially declared dating.</p>

<p>The question I had about High School relationships drew responses that were not quite what I was looking for. I am sure BS students manage to find "rooms" or boat houses or whatever. I am not asking about sex on campus.</p>

<p>What I am asking is different. College students are known to hook-up in the absence of actual committed relationships. Most high school students actually do form relationships and date exclusively. That's what seems to be an important part of growing up to me. Learning to be in relationships.</p>

<p>Kids at the schools I looked at said that living 24/7 with eachother tended to create a situation where dating did not occur, both because of the potential for gossip (not as much privacy as at a day school) and because they regarded eachother more in a brotherly/sisterly way.</p>