<p>Im calling the BS on that.</p>
<p>According to the Barna Report: Christian divorce rate…</p>
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<p>There’s no BS. The study is wrong – there is no such thing as divorce in Catholicism. You cannot ever get divorced, except in two specific cases (the Pauline and Petrine cases).</p>
<p>It’s the state that gives the marriage certificate. Not the church. Being married under the eyes of God is not the same as being married under the State of X.</p>
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<p>That’s true, but I wonder why the state would even be considered given that it’s ultimately not relevant in the internal context of the religion. The state’s grant of divorce is ultimately meaningless. To remarry, a Catholic would have to disregard Church teaching and get married in a civil court.</p>
<p>At that point, I fail to see why they identify as Catholic at all. So that number is also likely unreliable for that reason.</p>
<p>Well, if you want the benefit of married filing jointly, or housing benefits or health-care benefits, then you need sanctification by the State.</p>
<p>^That happens as soon as the couple is validly married, either in a Church or elsewhere.</p>
<p>weddings can be declared anulled in Catholic churches.</p>
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<p>Yes, if the Church or elsewhere is sanctified by the State.</p>
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<p>Church marriages are recognized by the State.</p>
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<p>It’s not anything subjective. Catholic “divorce” is an oxymoron – once you are married, that’s it. Again, discussing this issue outside of the context of Catholicism is unproductive, so I am naturally considering it in the necessary context.</p>
<p>Guys, Catholics don’t get divorced, just like they never have sex without the intention of conceiving children, after being married in a church of God. Get it straight, dammit!</p>
<p>Speaking of God, I have to go to CVS and pick up some of those little chocolate easter eggs, they’ll be on sale now I expect.</p>
<p>^ Yeah they will be. I used to work there in high school lol. If you wait a week-ish it might be down to 90% too.</p>
<p>Cadbury eggs…yummy</p>
<p>I think you guys are misunderstanding…Baelor meant that Catholics don’t recognize divorce. As I understand it (not being Catholic), when Catholic marriages dissolve they call it an annulment. To everyone else it’s pretty much the same as a divorce, but to Catholics it’s an important distinction.</p>
<p>By the way, this thread is going interesting places…</p>
<p>You can seek an annulment. That doesn’t mean that it will be granted.</p>
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<p>Not quite. An annulment is a dissolution of the marriage on the basis that it is actually invalid. This means that the only consideration is what happened at the time of the vows. Thus, domestic abuse is not valid grounds for an annulment.</p>
<p>Maybe it depends on your school…I’m a female undergrad at Stanford, and quite a few of my friends (~30%) are in long-term relationships with someone they will probably marry. I’m in a relationship and my boyfriend and I are waiting to actually get engaged until after we graduate, maybe even a year or two after, because I will be in dental school. Some people might think that I shouldn’t be planning that far in advance because I’ll be a different person in 4 or 5 years, but I don’t think wanting to marry someone who is handsome, kind, funny, intelligent, and wants the same things from life as me is really going to change.</p>
<p>People who try to find love in their workplace end up too often alone or like my aunt who was single for years until she got married, built a house, and had 2 kids within the space of 2 years. It made her life super stressful to go from 20 years of the single life to suddenly married with 2 kids and a $6,000/month mortage. Her marriage is really suffering for it, and that’s not what I want for myself.</p>
<p>I would like I meet my wife at college. I might wait until grad school before I start dating, though. I tend to be picky about my women. :)</p>
<p>I like the idea of not marrying until after college, but I would be so sexually frustrated, having to wait a few years. I am committed to being a virgin as a gift to my spouse on my wedding night.</p>
<p>Just stay away from MIT or Renessaer if this is your plan. 75% dudes so your chances are slim, even with the ugly chicks. </p>
<p>If you go to a UC (Most have over 50% females) your chances are good!</p>
<p>Overall, don’t “plan” on meeting your wife, just plan on going for a nice girl if you come across one.</p>
<p>I know this thread was directed at guys, but I am posting on behalf of my fiance. We started dating freshman year, we’re now engaged at senior year. I don’t think either of us were looking for this, hell we met at a party and we were both trashed, but somehow it just happened that way. I don’t think college is your only chance, or even your best chance. It is hard now because we are at a point in our relationship where we want to marry, but financially it is very difficult and logistically it is very difficult because as it turns out he suddenly wants to go to grad school and I suddenly want to take a job out of state. It might have been better for us to meet when we were both more settled down already in other aspects of our lives, rather than be ready to settle down with each other now but not logistically able to do it yet. We have to do a LOT of maneuvering right now to make our relationship work, and realistically we cannot get married for a while yet because of it. It’s very frustrating.</p>
<p>But then, maybe if I’d met him later I wouldn’t have been drunk and wouldn’t have given him a shot. 
Who knows! I for one believe you should treat every man or woman you date like they could be your spouse someday, because you just never know-- and 40 years from now you don’t want them still reminding you of that ****** move you made in college because you thought you’d never meet “the one” at school. :P</p>