If there are no more compelling reasons than that, I think you should consider moving elsewhere (off campus, if necessary), carefully choosing someone (even though you don’t know them) for compatible traits (and hours), considerateness and record of responsibility. There’s a LOT to be said for having control over your life.
I have to myself get people I don’t know to share my house, and in the past I have rented a room in other people’s houses. (There are various roommate finding websites.) I emphasize what are ‘deal breakers’ such as being noisy during the night when I interview applicants. I don’t take couples, to avoid the conversations they will have. I also arrange for a credit and background check on them, which can be done online for modest money. In a case where the person seeking to rent out a room is not the property owner, the arrangement has to be approved by the landlord.
When I’ve briefly had to deal with noise from people in the house or the neighborhood, I have used earplugs and (silent) headphones.
The same room?! Go to great lengths to avoid sharing the same bedroom with anyone you do not love!
Yeah. I’m kind of aware I can be a little over sensitive I guess. I have ptsd and have sensitivities to a lot of things. I can tolerate things to a certain level before they start driving me crazy and making me anxious. Kind of like 0-100.
My school requires us to live in dorms for our freshman year, so unfortunately I can’t find other solutions off campus. Now, next year I’ll definitely look into that though, so thank you for the advise!
I’ve consulted many friends and family from back home about this and the general consensus is that my roommate is being inconsiderate. I can see the reasoning that my original post comes off as whiny/over sensitive/etc. I was pretty tired and irritated at the time.
It may be too late now, but if you have a medical reason why you need to live off campus or in a different living situation, you may be able to get an exception to the requirement for students to live on campus in their freshman year.
Do the on-campus dorms have singles? Perhaps, you can get on a waitlist for one.
I’m glad you have friends and family who are supportive, but it really doesn’t surprise me that they think your roommate is being inconsiderate. It’s pretty easy to side with their friend/family member who is telling them the story about their horrible, inconsiderate roommate. There are two sides to every story, but without the ability to hear the other person’s side of the story, it’s pretty easy to see you as the victim. And let’s face it, your friends and family are already pretty biased here. I’m not saying that you are in the wrong, but I think it’s important to remember that just because your friends and family are on your side does not mean that you are automatically in the right about everything.
Your roommate is probably complaining to her family and friends about her inconsiderate roommate who complains when she speaks on the phone in her own room, said it was okay for her boyfriend to stay the night but is now being weird about it, always goes to bed late but then complains when she has to get up early for class, and then when she goes to bed late like you do, you STILL complain that she’s keeping you up. It’s like there’s no winning. I don’t want you to take this the wrong way because that was (obviously) a little tongue in cheek, but it’s important to recognize that there are two sides of every story. You both have to figure out how to live together or you have to figure out a way to get out of this living situation. She may every well be in the wrong, but that doesn’t change anything and it’s not going to make the situation better.
You can still ask for a reassignment. There must be other students hoping to get new roommates. So at least you should ask. Who knows but what there might be another student just waiting to swap rooms. That happened in my dorm freshman year. Dorms were all full and the university had students in hotels! But two girls were able to swap rooms and roommates.