what can i do about this stalker?

<p>Your school doesn’t allow hugging?.. that’s… that’s so sad.</p>

<p>YES to the both of them! It’s your school’s rules and their policies, why should we treat others differently when they break a school rule? Anywho, in my case, this is a form of sexual harassment. When you’re feeling uncomfortable because of somebody that IS a form of harassment.</p>

<p>Sorry, 40 minutes after this post I just noticed I put “in my case”. I meant in ivers0n’s case.</p>

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<p>Because they (the mentally handicapped) do not hold the same control over their thoughts and actions as we do, a reality that needs to be considered when upholding justice.</p>

<p>Despite the fact that he is a stalker with a so-called “learning disability”, and follows you around without ever realizing the circumstances of his actions on you or whatever,
I should say that he has Asperger’s syndrome, which is a form of Autism which lies on the higher functioning end of the spectrum.</p>

<p>There are symptoms which include:
-Poor social skills (which leads to difficulty relating to peers and frequent isolation)
-Obsessive topics of conversation
-Remarkable intelligence
-Limited understanding to human emotions and what others think (people with Aspergers Syndrome may interpret things differently, think differently, process information differently; they may have difficulty understanding that other people interpret things differently compared to what is expected for them)
-Inability to recognize facial cues, body postures, and other forms of non-verbal communication
-Lack of empathy
-Low self-esteem
-Inability to cope with certain feelings for oneself and handle them in a certain way
-Limited understanding of social etiquette and rules (such as school codes of conduct and violations).
-Taking things literally
-Strange behaviors can be strongly evident in an aspie student.</p>

<p>There are a number of people with Aspergers Syndrome that have trouble making friends correctly (due to lack of appropriate social skills) and may be withdrawn from their peers. Some I’ve heard of may have difficulty realizing the hidden codes of certain acts and that there are devastating effects it can lead to.
They may ask girls for their email addresses. The girls might think they’re stalking them. Aspergers syndrome students may have difficulty interpreting things the way we do. Students at school may have limited understanding of autism related symptoms while people with those symptoms don’t understand what’s going on.</p>

<p>There are an overwhelming number of students with aspergers who become victims of bullying, because they are unable to relate to their peers.</p>

<p>There are those who have excellent abilities to access or learn simple things in a certain way (kinda like a savant such as “RAIN MAN” who would memorize things that are very complicated, such as names in phone books, the most difficult mathematics problems, and tell what cards someone’s holding up without looking). He can tell the name of your brother without knowing it and memorizing locations and email addresses.</p>

<p>It’s ASPERGER’S SYNDROME, I know it!<br>
I highly recommend you should report this to the school principal and security IMMEDIATELY. If you don’t, he’s just gonna keep following you around. He needs to be taught a lesson! He needs help! Some people with aspergers syndrome can suffer tremendously, 'cause they are unable to fit in and need some attention and are unthinkably realizing they’re dumb in a way with things. They can eventually feel unlucky. They may have difficulty controlling their own emotions. Sometimes no matter how hard they try, students with Asperger’s Syndrome may never or may have essential difficulty realizing that they are on a course to crossing the line.</p>

<p>Hope this helps you!</p>

<p>honestly what’s so creepy about that,
i met my first boyfriend because he had asperger’s and got all my information by stalking my posts on college confidential, it was a little unnerving but he was a great guy (and i couldn’t help but be flattered that he was obsessed with me)</p>

<p>The OP was pretty harsh towards this kid (calling him a “freak”), and that was wrong.</p>

<p>At the same time, no one is obligated to be friends with everyone on the planet and they are ESPECIALLY not obligated to be friends with people who exhibit behavior that makes them feel unsafe. My best friend in high school was sexually harassed by a 40 year old guy with Downs syndrome when she worked in a restaurant. (He was a dishwasher there.) Not okay! Not acceptable!</p>

<p>OP, these are the steps I would take if I were you:</p>

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<li><p>Tell the kid to back off. He can’t read facial expressions, he isn’t taking hints, so tell him directly. “It makes me uncomfortable when you [behavior that makes you uncomfortable.] Don’t do that any more.” Or, if it comes to it, “I don’t want to hang out with you, leave me alone,” and “Don’t come by my house.”</p></li>
<li><p>If that doesn’t solve the problem, tell the counselors/teachers at your school or an adult, “This person is making me feel uncomfortable and here’s why. This is what he’s doing. I’ve told him not to [follow me, contact me, come to my house] but he still does.” Do NOT call the kid a freak or be vitriolic when you do this! The problem isn’t that he has a learning disability, the problem is his behavior.</p></li>
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<p>I don’t think a restraining order is a possibility at this point because he hasn’t threatened you. At any rate, you can’t get a restraining order against someone until you’ve told them to stop bothering you.</p>