Update: in an interesting turn of events, I have no curfew tomorrow night. It’s prom, and I’m going with my bf, so idk what changed my mom’s mind.
Have a good time and don’t do anything dumb!
Reward your mom by telling her about the prom. It’ll make her more comfortable about giving you freedom.
(Hope you had a fun night!)
@gardenstategal the words of a true genius
Make sure that you clean your room, get rid of what you don’t want anymore and leave it neat and orderly. That way, if you need something out of your room you’ll be able to easily tell your mom/dad where it is so they can get it to you in a timely manner. Also, your room will be presentabe if you ever want to bring a friend home over the weekend or during a college break.
Further update: my dad talked to my mom and really emphasized that I’ve earned a summer of being young. He reminded her that I’m responsible and smart enough to make good decisions. @flmom26 I did clean my room; thanks for that suggestion. I’ve tried to be more open with my mom about my life, per the advice I’ve received here. Thanks to everyone here, I don’t have a curfew anymore, and my mom is less worried. Last night, I was out until about 1:00 and she didn’t text me once. I think we’re in a really good place right now (it doesn’t hurt that she loves my bf and his family). I’m also going with her next week to visit UNR, which will make her feel more in the loop since she’s never seen it before. Thank you all so much for the help!
Our D is attending a college a long plane ride away. We flew with her to the college, attended a Parents’ Orientation while she attended Freshman Orientation, helped her move into her dorm, and met her roommate and her parents. That helped a lot.
Remember why you’re going to college. Study hard, don’t get in trouble, do your best, and get good grades. Keep in touch with your parents. We use group texts and e-mails to keep in touch. Your messages don’t need to be long essays. Even short messages and photos can be reassuring.
Make your parents proud. You can do it. It appears your parents have a lot vested in your education and success, emotionally as well as financially. You’re very fortunate. Don’t forget to thank them.
I haven’t been reading this regularly but it sounds like things have moved in a very nice direction. Have you decided where you are going to school? I see UNR mentioned, which might be University of Nevada, Reno. I also saw an article that says their ski team was defunded by the legislature in 2015 and became a club sport.
@shawbridge yup, Reno. They gave me a rocking scholarship and their ski team is just right for me.
Fabulous.