<p>If you dig deeper on the Pew report, in the 18-29 age group it is 68%. Now that does NOT mean that 68% of Americans in that age group are opposed to or choose to not engage in pre-marital sex! I think those two items are fairly unrelated, actually.</p>
<p>68% is still high. I was just trying to show the high percentage of Christian identified people-NOT that that same number (and probably not even close to it), are against pre-marital sex. Iād venture to guess THAT number is actually much lower than weād think.</p>
<p>In support of 3togo, the āmy house my rulesā thing doesnāt work here. Your roommate paid just as much for the room as you did. Seriously learn to share, and stop pretending to represent all Christians. Even devout Christians are not always against all pre-marital sex, especially when its just their roommate. Honestly, what is it to you? Iād take it from a roommate over drugs and alcohol any day, especially since pre-marital sex isnāt illegal. And thatās from someone who is personally against pre-marital sex.</p>
<p>Well, there is that. I do think there are worse roommate situations you can find yourself in than someone who wants to negotiate for some time in the room alone with a partner.</p>
<p>Ask Sheldon Cooper.</p>
<p>In sincere seriousness, when a college freshman goes to his/her first Friday night social event and mingles with members of the opposite gender, how is it theyāll be thinking of their Christian upbringing?</p>
<p>jpm50- according to a recently published book, āSticky Faithā the answer to your question is about 50% of kids entering college draw away from their faith while in college. That leaves the other 50%.</p>
<p>This study is describing kids that were active in the Christian faith. Going to church, youth group and the like.</p>
<p>Filius1, he should look at applying to Christian schools, including the non-Catholic ones. I know that Seattle Pacific University, Gordon College, Calvin College and Wheaton College (the one in Illinois) have rules that governing overnight guests, alcohol, etc. Depending on the school, these are more or less enforced, so you wouldnāt need a roommate contract. Some of these schools do have required chapel services, but I canāt imagine it would be a problem for your son to go to Mass instead.</p>
<p>JPM50, you asked a serious question, so Iāll give you a serious answer. My daughter went to a mixer her second weekend at Wellesley and was so turned off by the drunken frat boys who showed up that she remembered her Christian upbringing very well and was grateful for it. She remembered that she doesnāt have to āput outā to be a sexual being or dress in low cut clothes to be beautiful.</p>
<p>Filius1, </p>
<p>Iām at Penn and live in one of the highrises. Thatās just the policy here. I am also Catholic, itās never been a problem.</p>
<p>Many other religions also have similar regulations. Iāve toured campuses where there are single gender dorms for people who strictly observe a religious faith. It does not even have to be about sexual encounters. I know of a Muslim student who must keep her hair covered in front of males or in public. In her single gender dorm she can take a shower and dry her hair in the bathroom in peace. She does not have to fear walking back to her room to get dressed and encountering a male visitor on the way.
OP, IMHO a search for colleges that have a large Muslim, Orthodox Jewish, Mormon, or other conservative religious groups- in a diverse setting may have dormitory accomodations for religious students as well as more common co-ed dorms for secular students. Then he can choose where to live.</p>
<p>Iād also like to ask a serious question about roommates and āinsistingā on certain provisions. I understand that the roommate agreement is a vehicle for discussion and compromise and for determining how to work out potential points of contention if they arise. </p>
<p>Butā¦Are there any points where it is ok to insist? If, for example, a roommate decides to bring a guest home and have sex in the room, does the other person have to compromise on that? Iām an old fogey but Iād think that if the roommate wants to accommodate his or her out of town girlfriend or boyfriend, heād either have to spend the money for a hotel room, make sure the other roommate has another place to stay thatās agreeable to the roommate, or refrain from sexual activity. Iām curious to hear what others think.</p>
<p>pde54003:</p>
<p>āThe use of the word ghetto still rankles me, along with the hilariously immature defense using the dictionary definition of the word. Quick hint, google the word āconnotation,ā and youāll understand why using that word in such an offhand way is so disrespectful.ā</p>
<p>Iām sorry that youāre rankled, but the fact is that I did not mean āghettoā in the sense of a slum. I meant it precisely in the sense of an area where āundesirableā people are set aside because the main proportion of the population doesnāt want them around. This is a common usage of the word, and I was surprised that people took it the way they did. I understand about connotations, but I also understand that a word can have more than one connotation. To insist that it can only mean one thing is, frankly, narrow-minded. : )</p>
<p>I mean really, BYU a slum? BYU?!! LOL.</p>
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<p>I am not sure what my daughter thinks about this situation, but hereās my first thought: it doesnāt take that long to have sex, even when youāre 18. And most couples, while sleeping together, donāt have sex all night. So it occurs to me that in a roommate situation, the sex can take place when the roommate is not present (like maybe while s/he is in class or eating in the dining hall or at the library or whatever), and then the couple can just share the bed during the night, if thatās ok with the roommate.</p>
<p>Pennylane:</p>
<p>āIāve toured campuses where there are single gender dorms for people who strictly observe a religious faith.ā</p>
<p>Can you tell me which ones? The more options the better. Thanks.</p>
<p>Oldmomā¦thinking way backā¦itās fast, yes, but often. (smile)</p>
<p>I seem to recall something said about them at University of Delaware or University of Maryland, but looking at the housing options, they are hard to find. The info I know is from a while back and it is possible things have changed since then. I did look for them online to try to answer your question, and there are many dorms to read about. One would have to look at each dorm to see how they are arranged. Many of them are single gender by wing or by floor, so at least one gender shares a bathroom. It was a while back that these options were mentioned on tours, but now, going back, I am not able to quickly find them by internet search. I apologize if I am in error.
It would seem to me that you would first need to make a list of schools that interest you, then contact the Catholic organizations on campus. While the school may not be able to address your religous concerns, I would hope the religious organizations will.</p>
<p>Penny:</p>
<p>Thanks.</p>
<p>filius, has your son considered Calvin College? Itās a respected, challenging school with a long-standing conservative culture. I donāt know much about their linguistics program, but they do have one: </p>
<p>[Calvin</a> College - English - Majors and Minors: Linguistics Major](<a href=āOverview - English | Calvin Universityā>http://www.calvin.edu/academic/engl/academics/linguistics.html)</p>
<p>Residence halls there are usually made up of male and female wings with a shared lobby, and, judging by the expectations for apartment dwellers, they hold students to high standards regarding visiting with the opposite sex: </p>
<p>"Bedrooms: Visitation in bedrooms is limited to 10 a.m. until Midnight on weekdays and 1:00 am on Friday and Saturday, providing privacy for roommates and out of respect for the sexual mores which flow from our Christian commitment.</p>
<p>Cohabitation: Cohabitation includes inappropriate sexual behavior at any time, in any part of the apartment, but also includes āsleeping overā by members of the opposite gender. Again, this policy attempts to take seriously our commitment to a Christian view of relationships and sexuality.</p>
<p>Since this policy gives increased freedom to students, it assumes increased responsibility and personal accountability on everyoneās part. Students who disregard or abuse this freedom will face possible loss of visitation privileges and/or other disciplinary action."</p>
<p>[Living</a> Expectations - Housing - Calvin College](<a href=āhttp://www.calvin.edu/housing/housing-options/calvin-apartments/knollcrest-east/living-expectations.html]Livingā>Living Expectations - Resources | Calvin University)</p>
<p>OP-if you ARE interested in Calvin College, my boss (a pastor) and her husband are graduates. She keeps abreast of the school as an active alumni, and I THINK at least one of her children graduated from there.</p>
<p>I can ask her about the linguistics program (or who she suggests you talk to) but I am NOT asking her how closely the policies about sexual activity were followed! I do know that she and her H married quite young-and that her theory is that when there are very strict bans on any kind of sexual activity that those followers marry young and sometimes unwisely simply to be able to have sex. She has not said if that is why SHE married young.</p>