<p>Boysx3:</p>
<p>The Facebook thing sounds like a great idea, thanks.</p>
<p>I am confused about why your older son lives in a triple and deals with the situations that come up with roommates, but your younger son canât/wont.</p>
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<p>No problem. You and your son shouldnât really think that everyone in college is dating.</p>
<p>I am personally an engineering sophomore, and most of my time I spend studying, weight lifting, spinning, and fishing with my friends. Both myself and three of my close friends are still single. I personally, donât even have time to chase arrogant and disloyal girls, who donât worth a fraction of my attention. </p>
<p>So rest assured that your son is doing THE RIGHT thing, and you should be proud as a mother that you have raised a son, whose spiritual, ethical, and moral values surpass those of most teens around!</p>
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What about Alabama which gives big bucks to NMF folks and CC crew is amazingly happy with? ⊠not sure Bama has linguistics though. M2CK are you reading this thread?</p>
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<p>If he or she went to such event on âfirst Friday night,â it certainly means that they didnât have a proper Christian upbringing in the first placeâŠ</p>
<p>And also, itâs incorrect to assume that partying/college dating is against Christian values only. Itâs incorrect by all values of common sense and pragmatism. </p>
<p>As I said, I am not a Christian, yet I am strongly opposed to this idea of college dating. </p>
<p>From my own observations, college dating leads to degraded academical performance, decadence of oneâs morality, spiritual emptiness, and utter degradation.</p>
<p>Wait⊠So college aged students should not be dating???</p>
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<p>I donât really encourage or discourage anyone from dating. I just shared my observations; this so-called delusion of a âhappy coupleâ is very ephemeral (short-lasting), and also, most college relationships consist of immature people. Most students attribute high importance to dating, but in reality, they just waste their time because dating at such an early age is completely meaningless. </p>
<p>I had a great friend, who was full of energy and motivation when he finally got a girlfriend; but after about 3 weeks, they broke up, and he started suffering from severe depression, and his grades dropped drastically (1.15 GPA, if I recall correctly), failing numerous classes. He paid a huge price for that dating, and it really, meant nothingâŠ</p>
<p>Intparent:</p>
<p>âI am confused about why your older son lives in a triple and deals with the situations that come up with roommates, but your younger son canât/wont.â</p>
<p>First, I never said my younger son canât/wonât deal with the situations that come up with roommates. As Iâve explained before, I was trying to find out to what extent the Roommate Contract might help to resolve his concerns ahead of time. I have not (nor has he) eliminated the possibility that he will just have to deal with it as best he can, through negotiation or compromise or what have you. </p>
<p>Second, my older son goes to a school with separate menâs and womenâs dorms and a strict policy against opposite sex visitation, strictly enforced, which eliminates the issues my younger son is concerned about.</p>
<p>guyfromTTU:</p>
<p>âSo rest assured that your son is doing THE RIGHT thing, and you should be proud as a mother that you have raised a son, whose spiritual, ethical, and moral values surpass those of most teens around!â</p>
<p>Much appreciated. (I really need to get a more masculine screen name, Iâm a dad but people keep assuming Iâm a mom. : )</p>
<p>3togo:</p>
<p>âWhat about Alabama which gives big bucks to NMF folks and CC crew is amazingly happy with? ⊠not sure Bama has linguistics though.â</p>
<p>Alas, no linguistics major at Alabama. Thanks though!</p>
<p>Sounds like your son might be a bit too sheltered. While I understand the need for âroommate agreements,â such ideals are not always foolproof. When he starts college, he will be in the real world, having to live with, and get used to, the reality that not everything in life goes as planned. And honestly, the no girl thing is a bit archaic. Has he no close friends that are female? What if he befriends a girl, strictly platonic, and wants her over to study late at night? I mean, you can coddle your kid all you want, but at the end of the day, theyre living in the real world; **** happens. If its that big of a deal, just get him a private room where he can have his own way, and no one can ever bother him. He will adjust perfectly to the realities of the world that way. Itâs a wonderful way to acclimate him to adulthood.</p>
<p>Georgiarose:</p>
<p>As far as I know my son has been living in the real world (and adjusting to it, and getting used to it, etc.) his whole life.</p>
<p>It is just amazing to me that everyone seems to think that filiusâ son is unreasonableâŠwhen did bringing a romantic partner into a shared space become an unalienable right?</p>
<p>When my dd was having her issues, one of her roomies issues was that she didnât like ddâs bf and didnât want him in the room. DD agreed to not have him there so long as RM didnât have hers either. Roommate didnât think that was âfairâ. But my point is DD was willing to not have BF in the room. </p>
<p>I am not universally opposed to opposite sex visitation. But, why is it only filiusâ son who is expected to compromise??</p>
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<p>But how, can you even live with someone who has a boyfriend or a girlfriend? Talking to that person, living with him, sharing things with himâthis is just beyond me. I personally donât have a single bit of respect for a college student who is in relationship.</p>
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<p>If you say that âno girl thingâ is outdated, I can say that students who have girlfriends, drink alcohol, and attend parties are a bit confused about where they are. This is college. You came to study. I am personally a full time student (21hrs), and I also work on weekends to get extra cash and ease my parents financially. But I get totally sick, when on Saturday evening, I am coming back home, completely exhausted from work, and I see some girls and guys on their 80k$ cars driving to party. </p>
<p>As I said before, dating/partying results in a complete degradation of teens, and thus, making them rotten and disgusting.</p>
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<p>I have to say that you are way outside the norm.</p>
<p>College students came to study, and also to live their lives. And itâs perfectly normal for 17-22-year-olds to have social dating relationships while studying, learning and achieving academically.</p>
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<p>âNormal can never be amazing.â</p>
<p>You are correct; I am abnormal because I take 19hours, maintain excellent grades, work part-time to help my parents, never touch a drop of alcohol, donât smoke, donât party, maintain a strict regime (10pm-bed; 6 am-wake up), go to the gym every day, eat healthy, and sometimes go for bike ride. </p>
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<p>If youâre so âextraordinaryâ, why canât you find a good girl? Do you not have a sense of what to look for in a potential partner to not end up with a âdisloyal hoeâ?</p>
<p>It doesnât sound like it. </p>
<p>It is perfectly normal for young adults to seek a relationship. If anything, it should be encouraged. Through relationships you develop a deeper understanding of yourself and it provides in insight on how future relationship should or shouldnât go.</p>
<p>According to your logic,</p>
<p>â19hrs, excellent grades, part-time job, healthy diet, daily sportsâ==>Abnormal</p>
<p>â12hrs, poor grades, drivers parents 80k$ car, massive amounts of beer, girlfriends, alcohol, partiesâ==>Normal</p>
<p>I have no comments on this.</p>
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<p>First, I donât really have time because I am busy with school work and my part-time job. All my spare time I usually spend in the gym. And second, finding a girl that resembles my interpretation of being a âgood girlâ in my city, is like seeking a needle in a web haystack.</p>