<p>she INSISTS that her friend MUST come along!</p>
<p>ok, so i was in a little predicament a couple weeks back that has never happened to me before. I asked a nice, cute girl onto a date, she said yes, and then later tells me her friend wants to tag along. I tried wriggling out of the situation, but she continued to insist that she would be more comfortable with another friend tagging along. </p>
<p>I eventually got the idea that she probably isn't interested in me enough, so i made up some bull and cancelled the date.</p>
<p>Seriously, i wanna try again sometime with this girl, but what if she continues this? By then i'll probably move on, but i want this attempt to be the one...</p>
<p>by the way, i told her we were going to the movies... the MOVIES for crying out loud, not some slutty strip club. Does she not trust me? I know her pretty well (same classes, talked, etc).</p>
<p>As a female, I'd be a little nervous about dating a guy I don't know too much about (I watch a lot of Law and Order SVU so I always keep in mind the worst case scenarios). Even if you have the same classes, talked, etc, perhaps she is still a little fearful?</p>
<p>I say that if you really like this girl, go for it. Or, be upfront about the whole thing. Ask her straight out why she insists on bringing her friend along when you'd like to go on a date. Perhaps you can offer to do a double date thing, where her friend brings a guy along (or you set her up with one of your friends).</p>
<p>There are so many possibilities to this situation that you'll drive yourself insane questioning everything, so I personally think it's best to be straight up with this girl.</p>
<p>Yeah, I kinda think she's not interested in you that way. My friend tagged me along when she was uncomfortable with another guy and I usually tag friends along if I'm uncomfortable (with friends or whatever)</p>
<p>I don't think it means she's not into you....I think it means that she feels uncomfortable going on a first date alone. Some girls are like that. I agree with catsushi on her suggestion that you suggest a double date with the friend as you can make a kidding around remark that will even things out or something of that nature. However, if she insists on bringing a friend after that first date, I would simply ask her why. She may have had a bad experience in the past or is on the shy/innocent side. It would be good to have open communication about it at that point if you want to keep seeing her.</p>
<p>I find that odd. If I was uncomfortable, then I just simply wouldn't go on the date. :P</p>
<p>I think it would be awkward for someone. When I first went on a date with my current bf we randomly met and I was fine and wouldn't have even thought of inviting a friend. I didn't know girls even did that. :P</p>
<p>Have you offered to go do something other than go see a movie? </p>
<p>Going to see a movie is kind of boring and you don't get much time to talk. Also, it's sort of awkward. Maybe she's kind of into you but doesn't want to be put in an awkward position like you trying to make a move on her during the movie.</p>
<p>I think you should offer to go get something to eat/drink/something simple where you can talk and it's highly unlikely that either of you would be uncomfortable.</p>
<p>If you ask her again and she insists on bringing a friend, either say that you want to bring one too (and it will be a double date) or just say "well I was hoping that just the 2 of us could hang out and get to know each other better". You could even try a different date than a movie.</p>
<p>I don't know how to word this.......it also kinda depends on the person she is and how she said it.....for certain ways/people, it might mean she's not interested......for other people it might just mean that they aren't completely comfortable around you or they want to make sure it's not too awkward.</p>
<p>Maybe I'm not the typical girl because I would never insist a friend come along and I never like going to the bathroom in groups.</p>
<p>ok well if she wasn't that into you then she wouldn't have agreed on the date in the first place..i was in the same situation as this girl once. this guy that was in a few of my classes that i had casually talked to every once in awhile asked me to see a movie with him. i was very interested in him too. i was just extremely nervous! i'm typically a shy and reserved person when it comes to talking to and hanging out with new people. anyway i asked if i could bring my best friend and he could bring someone too if he wanted, and he was ok with that, we ended up having a great time! i just felt so much more comfortable with my best friend there with me. so if you really like this girl, i suggest asking her out again, and if she insists on bring her friend, then let her. its only one date..and then hopefully she warms up to you enough to go on any next dates with just the two of you.</p>
<p>Please do whatever you want but DON'T beg to her.
There are plenty of girls in the world, but what you could do would be do something with some of her friends and some of yours, that way that wouldn't be awkward and would make easier for you to take her on a 2nd date.</p>
<p>I dunno, my friend doesn't like certain people but she agrees to hang out with them anyhow just to be polite. o_O
does she KNOW this is even a date, not just hang out with a friend? If she knows its a date and she said yes... then you won't have any problems.</p>
<p>Other than her being crazy, the only thing I can think of would be that when you asked her out, she misinterpreted and thought you just meant, hanging out (instead of an actual date) and her buddy was bored/wanted to see the movie and just wanted to tag along.</p>
<p>Hmm. As a girl who has been in the same "is this a date/does he like me as a friend or as something more?" situation, I think that she's probably uncomfortable because she doesn't know what the situation is. Whether inviting her friend was a way of clearing up that ambiguous situation by saying "I want to stay in the Friend Zone," or a way of testing that situation to see how you'd react... I don't really know. But, I can tell you that in my situation, I didn't like the guy, and I did as many things as possible to show that I only wanted to be friends. It sounds like this girl wasn't really sure whether it was a date or not, so she asked to bring along her friend to show you it wasn't meant to be one without making the situation awkward.</p>