Did I miss my chance?

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<p>So there's this girl I've liked for about a month. I've been hesitant to ask her out, well, because I'm like that, and also because she's in my circle of friends, so I wasn't sure if I wanted to risk making things awkward. Anyways, a couple weeks ago, us and a mutual friend were on our way to a party. On the bus, while we were talking, she just randomly asked me about relationships, and just stuff about that. We talked about it for a while.</p>

<p>Fast forward to now, and she's going out with some other guy. I bummed about it, but what makes me feel worse is the lingering feeling that I missed my chance. I can remember her saying that she would like having a bf, and her asking me if I would like a gf. </p>

<p>Did I just totally not pick up the signal and f up? I can't help but feel that she was trying to gauge my interest, and due to the fact that I didn't do anything for a couple of weeks, she gave up on me. </p>

<p>Man... I really fail at this whole relationship thing.</p>

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<p>know the feeling, possibly in same situation</p>

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<p>grow some stones</p>

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<p>actually better make that boulders</p>

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<p>There is nothing wrong with being shy. When the subject came up, you should have asked her out, but it is not the end of the world.</p>

<p>I am sure you will have another opportunity with her. Good luck.</p>

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<p>i think it could've been either or because I just talk about stuff like that to other people just to make small talk ^^;;;;</p>

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<p>Man, I sure hope so. I'm still kinda wondering how to do it and not make it awkward if she says no.</p>

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<p>Yeah, you missed some major major hints. But anyway: just ask. It sounds scary, but if/when she breaks up with her boyfriend and if you get another opportunity, just say:</p>

<p>"hey, want to get dinner/see that new movie/whatever with me on friday?"</p>

<p>you're giving her an easy way to get out. she can say:
-yes
-no, I can't./I'm busy (usually means no)
-no, I'm busy - why don't we do that on saturday?</p>

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<p>Hope that happens. But still, if she says no, wont it be awkward?</p>

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<p>Only as awkward as going after things you want in life, with the possibility of failure, is. The alternative is never asking anyone out and never going on a date...</p>

<p>If she says no, I can't. You say, okay, cool, and move on to the next topic of conversation.</p>

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<p>Yeah, sounds like you missed it. A similar thing happened to me. It sucks.</p>

<p>And, it will be awkward if you ask and you KNOW she's still going out with him.</p>

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<p>There is something wrong with being shy. It's a complete turn off for women (women who don't post on collegeconfidential).</p>

<p>She did her part - she gave you the signs, and you were too much of a wuss to ask her out. She realized that and found someone else.</p>

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There is something wrong with being shy. It's a complete turn off for women (women who don't post on collegeconfidential).

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<p>That was low.</p>

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<p>That was the truth. How ethical it was for me to say it doesn't matter.</p>

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<p>Who says we go for shy guys? I mean there's still a few girls who talk about how they love quiet nerdy guys. But, you can't generalize here though it might be partially true.</p>

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<p>I just said that to deter any chicks on here from saying "but I love shy guys!" because most women in general don't. Confidence is as close to an aphrodisiac as you can get. I didn't mean to offend any chicks on here and make it seem like they're different.</p>

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<p>yes .</p>

<p>now you'll just have to bide your time until they break up
or, better yet, find someone else.</p>

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<p>So what should I do in the meantime?</p>

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<p>move on?</p>

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<p>yeah, i can relate to your situation in many respects, but i think for your mental health and stability, it's essential to try not to dwell on the situation; try sports, focus more on preparing for classes/doing work, but i think that if you just be yourself and a kind friend, in the end that will definitely pay off.</p>