<p>but I AM interested! I just don't know what he wants</p>
<p>Who Cares What He Wants. What Do YOU Want?</p>
<p>he was trying to avoid awkwardness. you will probably just end up being friends now.</p>
<p>He is playing games with you. as a serious victim of one of such games which went for 4 weeks (and involved dating too), let me say that some sociopaths play them all the time. why don't you also play games with him? not to say you are sociopath but just for revenge and fun? Or just curse the human nature and go on with your life.</p>
<p>just ask him mildly "hey you've been acting a bit strange. anything on your mind?"</p>
<p>poke him, if he pokes back, you can ask him out with confidence he'll say yes</p>
<p>not only poke him, grab his crotch</p>
<p>but not too hard</p>
<p>Dude, what the bloody heck is wrong with BOYS at this age of 18-22?!!! They're oblivious to everything but their own immediate thoughts and such. I'm stuck in a similar situation too, ongoing!!!! I didn't start any of it, he was the one who was supposedly giving me signs, and half my house started wondering stuff! He's a second year too so even one of his best friends asked him about me and whether there was anything going on. Then one of the girls I hang with asked us if there was anything going on.</p>
<p>Apparently he's "a very different sort of guy who doesn't have the traditional guy thoughts and intentions." Point is, he's never dated anyone before and he's gonna be 20. Point is, he's at a really difficult university with me and feels he doesn't have time budgeted for dating. Point is, he's admitted he prefers to be good friends with a girl before anything else can happen (we've only known each other for 2 months now). Point is, he and I went to a Bennigans alone in downtown Chicago and he paid and according to him, it wasn't a date. Point is, he and I go see movies a lot, alone, but they're not dates. Point is, he asked if I want to go see Casino Royale again (even though I just saw it, but he didn't) - the price of a movie tickets says he pays for the movie and his reasoning will be, "I feel bad that you're seeing this movie again because of me." Point is, his friends were screwing around with him today and stuck his backpack and coat in the seat next to me so he had nowhere to sit even though I have no idea why they would do such a thing, but they were giggling about it and whispering - could that mean something? Point is, he doesn't act very social with me in front of people, but once we're hanging out alone he gets much more talkative and jovial and open and fun. Point is, a girl who knows him said I am the first girl he has shown particular interest in and has spent time alone with since she has known him. Point is, I've gone through two tough situations of having a really terrible flu virus and also learning my 11yo cat died, and he wasn't supportive at all, rather ignored it while this other guy in my dorm was at this other girl's beck and call while she was sick and when her brother died recently! Point is: I'm confused!</p>
<p>You women really need to start getting a grip. It's obvious he's intensely into you, but you're not reciprocating. Just tell him, "Sorry, not interested." The last thing he needs is a woman who's not genuinely interested in him to play around with this feelings. The longer you hang out with this naive guy, the more he'll grow attached.</p>
<p>Why don't you go up to him one day and tell him what's on your mind? Isn't that what you really want to do? Get his response and if he's at all interested, take it from there. If not, then it's on you what you do from there. You can either still think about him or just let him go.</p>
<p>How am I supposed to tell him whats on my mind?
What if he doesn't feel the same way and is like, "well I was just being nice"?</p>
<p>^then you move on. plenty of the fish in the sea.</p>
<p>better to be upfront about it then not bother at all and guarantee nothing will happen. at least girls can do that... theres not much to lose.</p>