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<p>Ckohsa, I can empathize, my son was deferred from a school he was sure he would get in and all of his best friends did get in to. He’s pretty upset (although it wasn’t his first choice school -he was 100% certain he would get in) and it has been a blow to his confidence. Rejection stinks, no matter how mature we are. Your son will probably have a few bad days and move on.</p>
<p>What helped my son is we sat down yesterday and went through the Naviance data for every school he is applying to (he refused to look at it before - the deferral was a real wake-up call to him). I think he now has a better understanding that the odds are against him at his reach schools. He will hear from his #1 choice (high reach school) next week. I would be thrilled if he got a deferral - I think a rejection is in the cards. I’ve told him repeatedly that it is very unlikely he will get in.</p>
<p>Remember - there is enormous pressure on these kids right now. It’s not just about being deferred or rejected - the kids all know who applied where and it becomes a little bit of a competition to see who can get into the ‘best’ school and it really sucks to have to tell your friends you didn’t get in (especially when others did get accepted). I think, for my son, that is the hardest part. He’s a good student but several of his friends are outstanding students and he feels like he is not measuring up. To make matters worse, some of these kids really promote the idea that if you don’t get into one of the ‘top’ schools, your life is over. Ugh! Had to spent a lot of time yesterday talking son down from that ridiculous idea. Still not sure he gets it.</p>
<p>Hugs and just remember time heals most wounds.</p>