It’s not as simple as tutoring or just getting him to go. It’s recognizing he’s got a motivation issue created at home. I think some compare his situation to their own kids and see them the same- “just do it.” But this is: after carrying you through, “We expect you to pick up where we left off.”
This thread is divided between what we told our kids and they responded to, the notion you can just set expectations and “our” kids would do what they can. And this kid, who, imo, was made dependent on all the parent “support” to keep him afloat, during hs.
And then, because college is expensive, people feel justified telling OP to go ahead and draw her line. Meanwhile, she doesn’t seem to like this kid, at all. On a public forum, OP says whatever awful things about him. She’s not even a tiger parent, I believe this is some weird psychological drama.
You don’t fix the problem by demanding better grades or blaming him, calling him words the rest of us would never use. A few of us here see the problem in mom’s perception and license to criticize, track him, desire to threaten.
That’s different than a relationship where we grew our kids, empowered them, and now have a sweet little convo about B grades.
Plus, I’ll say again-- a slightly over C average with two D grades means some classes were B or A grades. That’s so horrible?