<p>Best thing to do is to keep with what you are doing now. Focus on school and friends and eventually the right guy will be right in front of your face and you wont even know it. Keep your options open but do not be desperate.</p>
<p>^ terrible advice</p>
<p>After reading through this WHOLE thread, I have come to some conclusions.</p>
<p>OP is:</p>
<ol>
<li>Unattractive</li>
<li>Doesn’t have very good social skills or personality</li>
<li>Cant even dance</li>
</ol>
<p>WHAT DO YOU EXPECT???</p>
<p>People think they can be mediocre and somehow they will get an awesome boyfriend/girlfriend.</p>
<p>You attract what you are.</p>
<p>^ I guess I can accept that I will never get anyone decent, but how do get over dealing with the garbage that approaches me? I don’t think any woman deserves that tbh.</p>
<p>who said you will never get anyone decent?</p>
<p>change yourself</p>
<p>if you dont want garbage approaching you, change yourself</p>
<p>remember, you attract what you are</p>
<p>how is that terrible advice? do you suggest that she continue to get ******s and be miserable or wait impatiently and find a good guy?</p>
<p>I’m trying to change, but change is slow. Maybe I can’t tell if a nice guy is interested in me because of my AS 
I have put more effort into my looks and people have noticed… I just have to be patient, but honestly, I don’t care that much anymore.</p>
<p>@transfernkid:</p>
<p>look at the results she is getting now</p>
<p>and you told her to keep doing what she is doing</p>
<p>complicated?</p>
<p>What i meant is that she should not even try to find any1 since its not working. her self esteem/confidence needs a serious boost before she could be with any1.</p>
<p>Reminds me of HIMYM Season 1 episode 17 life among the gorillas</p>
<p>When I stopped worrying about men I actually met a nice guy like a month later, two years later we are still together. It’s funny how that works out. However, I didn’t get him by deciding I was never going to get a man-- that kind of insecurity is unattractive. I got him by deciding I just didn’t need one and focusing on more important, more fun things-- and he took notice.</p>
<p>OP, why don’t you approach the kinds of guys that interest you instead of waiting around? Guys respond well when the girl initiates. In my experience, the mere fact that the girl initiates can slightly make up for deficiencies in her attractiveness, etc.</p>
<p>^ I already have. People say I’m too forward.</p>
<p>I guarantee you no matter what you do, someone will tell you it’s wrong. Even if you succeed doing it, someone will say “oh you just got lucky”. As I’ve learned, worrying about how other people think you should be getting dates is a wonderful way not to get any.</p>
<p>I’m still kinda sad that I’m ugly. I am getting more involved in school, but it seems like everyone ignores me. It’s like I have to force people to notice me. I do not want to be obnoxious or annoying though. I’m not talking about guys, I mean friends in general. If I should even call them friends. I talked to a few people about this and they agreed with me. I know I’m not imagining this because at least 3 people agreed with me. No one disagreed at all.</p>
<p>Being ignored is a horrible feeling. It is even worse than being hated by everyone because if you’re hated, at least you’re making an impact somehow. At least your existence is acknowledged beyond utilitarian reasons. That’s pretty much the only reason anyone talks to me. Whether it is because they need something from me or they’re bored and have no one better to talk to. </p>
<p>I don’t think I’m rude, or a whiner, or obnoxious. I don’t have bad hygiene. </p>
<p>I must be boring. Mind numbingly boring to the point where I’m just in the background of everyone’s life. I’m like the extra in the motion picture. </p>
<p>I’m sorry if I’m being melodramatic, but I think this is true.</p>
<p>You said you are “ugly” and “boring”</p>
<p>Well…</p>
<p>You need to work on making yourself look more attractive.</p>
<p>And you need to work on your personality.</p>
<p>Dont overcomplicate things.</p>
<p>How do I fix my personality? I did fix my looks, and even though people noticed, it didn’t make much of a difference. If any at all.</p>
<p>“I’m still kind of sad that I’m ugly.”</p>
<p>I have no idea what you look like, but nobody is ugly. even conventionally ‘attractive’ people are seen as ugly to some people. if you don’t think you’re deserving of a date then you probably won’t get any. don’t be so hard on yourself. :)</p>
<p>and I don’t see the point of trying to “work” on personality and looks for the sole purpose of appealing to others.</p>
<p>the moment i stopped looking for someone, i found them. usually how it works</p>
<p>Not really, when I stopped looking for the past 6 mos nothing happened.</p>