<p>"I have few friends. They're fairly close ones, I guess. But I am a girl, and Idon't have a single guy friend on this campus (I'm not a freshman). I am articulate, focused, participate in activities, dress well, take care of myself and I have been told that I am very pretty, so I don't know why. I guess it has something to do with the way I must behave, and I don't know, but I'm getting older and it's all the same. I guess they might find me intimidating? I've gotten so used to it, I've practically given up. I can go weeks - no, months - without talking to a boy unless it is for club, academic, or otherwise "business" purposes. "</p>
<p>awwwwww, find me, i'd TOTALLY be your guy friend.:)</p>
<p>It gets a lot easier as you spend more time in college. You get more used to your surroundings and learn not to focus on the social aspects all the time, and then it comes more naturally, I think. :)</p>
<p>It's good to know that I'm not alone in this sort of situation. I have a girlfriend who I spend just about all my social time with because I have no "real" friends. My situation is a little different because I'm at community college right now, but that just makes transferring even more daunting for me since other people in this post are isolated native students. There's a perception that everyone at the university has already bonded during the first two years, so it seems pretty hard to break in as a transfer, especially if you aren't a socially successful person already. Plus my prospective schools are notoriously clichy, Davis and UCLA. And my first choice UCB is notoriously impersonal. Eh...</p>
<p>I would say that I'm quite pleased with the way my social life is going in college, after a couple of months. In high school, I was very shy, and didn't really have many friends, but I've been able to become much more outgoing over the last year or so, and I don't feel shy very much anymore. I'm glad I decided to go to a small school, because I really like the way that the campus is a nice little community. My hall is a really tight knit group, and we do a lot of things together.</p>
<p>A few things I would suggest:</p>
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<li>Just try to be open with people, and be as outgoing as possible. This can be a little intimidating some times, but people really like it when you talk to them and make an effort to be their friend</li>
<li>Don't worry about stuff. In high school, I would worry about every little thing, like what people thought about me, and how people would react to what I said, and all kinds of stupid stuff. I've now realized that life in general is much better if you just don't worry about little things like that. Just go for it, take risks, talk to people, and don't worry what they think. Other people's opinions of you only matter if you let them.</li>
<li>Alcohol can be a good way to loosen yourself up in social situations. I know someone will blast me for saying this, but as long as you don't go overboard, this can be really effective. I know that it has certainly helped me.</li>
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<p>Eh ... I'm just not the outgoing type and I like it that way. Although I do wish I had more opportunities to meet people non-randomly. I rarely get the opportunity to go to parties (and I got a drinking ticket back in September) so I usually just meet people through clubs and such these days. I've been to maybe three parties this entire semester so far. I feel a lot more comfortable meeting people at interest clubs or something like that for some reason. Trying to start writing for the school newspaper too. Also applied for a job at the local library. Maybe I can meet some folks like me there too while I regain my income.</p>
<p>On a side note, I find it pretty funny that I've met noone besides my roommates in my hall and yet I've met more people at interest clubs and events on campus more than anywhere else.</p>
<p>For some reason the people at Mount Union never quite figured me out. I'm kind of an enigma as far as personality goes to all of them. I'm really not that complicated--I'm a technician who doesn't party, never takes a day off, loves baseball, and values morals very highly. </p>
<p>And no, I'm not changing no matter what the support person up here told me. This is another example of how pitiful Mount Union is. The support lady told me that if I want to make any friends up here I need to go to a frat party. Um, that's not me. She still insisted on it. I refused. Support people are supposed to understand, not change (at least that's what they did at my high school and at some other schools). They'll have to pry the controller out of my dead hands before they get me to a frat house.</p>
<p>I'm always friendly with people, but I get blown off since I don't really fit in with the culture here. I just have to remember I am out of here in a few weeks. I know people at the college I'm transferring into (including a good buddy from HS who is a lot like me) and they don't party 24/7. I write this at 4:14 AM and there are still noisy people (boys and GIRLS) in my hall outside my door. Quiet hours began at 11PM and visitation hours ended at 2AM. The RA one of those drunks out there. How pathetic is this?!?</p>
<p>Sorry for being so negative with this post, but I needed to get it out of my system.</p>
<p>lol they really told you to go to a frat party? I've been to those before. Really depends what kind of frat it is really. Some of them are OK and you could still probably meet some cool people there (in the midst of all of the drunks), but yeah probably not the best place for me either.</p>
<p>And I hope the transfer goes well for you MacTech.</p>