Your Deal-Breakers

<p>^ you would be surprised to know how many relationships work like that…</p>

<p>is having red hair a deal breaker for anyone? I think i’ve seen maybe 2 redheaded guys in my life I was attracted to. usually I’m not into the gingers at all…auburn or brownish-red is ok but I’m never attracted to guys with orange-ish hair. being pasty and freckled usually goes with that look as well (though freckles are kind of cute :))</p>

<p>also, it bothers me when a guy is completely hairless (like no arm/leg hair at all) or doesn’t really need to shave. I’m not saying I want a gorilla, but some stubble now and then is nice and he should at least have some body hair, at least on his legs. the opposite extreme (being a “sweater”) isn’t pleasant either i guess.</p>

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<p>ouch, being vegetarian is a turnoff? jeez, i never realized. :D</p>

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<p>mine:</p>

<p>-mean
-rude
-dirty (ew.)
-lots of facial hair
-serious substance abuse issues
-younger
-shorter than me (5’7" here)
-extremely Republican or religious</p>

<p>“ouch, being vegetarian is a turnoff? jeez, i never realized”</p>

<p>I eat so much meat it is ridiculous, it would be a pain in the ass if my boyfriend wouldn’t eat like 80% of the things I eat. Nothing personal!</p>

<p>“is having red hair a deal breaker for anyone? I think i’ve seen maybe 2 redheaded guys in my life I was attracted to. usually I’m not into the gingers at all…auburn or brownish-red is ok but I’m never attracted to guys with orange-ish hair. being pasty and freckled usually goes with that look as well”</p>

<p>Not a deal breaker, but it is probably points off. I have been attracted to a handful of redheads but other men get away with being much more average than they probably could with me.</p>

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<p>yeah, i guess. i’m a girl veggie and no one’s ever had a real problem with it (as in, “ewwwww, you’re veg?” i’m super low key about it though), but if you’re serious with someone and eating together all the time it might be a problem.</p>

<p>red hair = not a DB.</p>

<p>yeah as a girl I think a guy being a vegetarian would definitely be a turn-off (although not necessarily a deal-breaker), especially since I’m a girl who LOVES meat, especially beef and chicken and pork. Yum</p>

<p>And red hair isn’t a deal-breaker for me either-there can be some good looking red-haired guys; I just tend to like guys with darker hair and tanner skin in general so that’s just my bias.</p>

<p>My boyfriend had a no dating vegans rule before he met me. I changed his mind. (;
I cook for him all the time, and he likes 75% of the stuff I make (he HATES most vegetables/beans/tofu) so not bad.</p>

<p>I don’t think eating gets in the way too much. If I wasn’t vegan, I doubt I would eat the same as him any how, we have completely different tastes.</p>

<p>We eat out no problem. About 99.9% of places are willing to make accommodations, or I can find something to easily veganize. I can even eat at a steak house with no problem. (: The only place I have difficulty with and avoid is the Olive Garden. But, I’m Italian, and their food is so far from real Italian food that I never liked it there anyway.</p>

<p>Meeting veg guy would be pure love, but they’re few and far between… and I’m taken. :P</p>

<p>Cooking and eating together is essentially the only thing my boyfriend and I do together when we aren’t studying together, and though I will try anything I have VERY particular taste buds so there is not much that I eat. I suppose if I dated a rich person that could take me out to eat and out on dates and stuff so that we had something to do other than cook it might work better, but we don’t spend money on that kind of stuff. When all you do is cook, study, watch movies, play board games, and read… making cooking complicated is a serious issue. XD</p>

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<p>I don’t understand why being a vegetarian is a turn off either. I mean, you can still enjoy your steak while your date is enjoying tofu and steamed veggies. Just like a husband standing pain-free on the sidelines while his wife endures child-birth. Or maybe not. </p>

<p>But food preference is definitely not a problem as far as I’m concerned. Besides if we were to nit pick potential dates on such irrelevant details, in reality, we’d all be dateless.</p>

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<p>Imagine that you and your wife have completely different interests, with maybe one in common. Now imagine a meal being an allegory for life. Same thing.</p>

<p>I could not even date a vegetarian; it wouldn’t work out because from the numerous marriages in my family involving vegetarians, the carnivores do not continue to eat meat, even though they want to. In other words, unobtrusive coexistence is not actually a possibility.</p>

<p>My boyfriend and I live together and food is never an issue. Heck, I even cook for him if he buys meat from local, more humane, farms. I don’t see why peaceful coexistent isn’t possible (unless one is nagging the other, which is a personality problem, not an eating one).</p>

<p>And human beings can’t be carnivores, we’d die. We’re omnivores.</p>

<p>Let’s see if any guy can get past H2013’s dealbreakers.</p>

<p>I already have 3 strikes because I’m:
pale
moody
immature on occasion… lol</p>

<p>Anyway just joking around but here’s a few things I’ve noticed recently:</p>

<p>bad breath. seriously, I’m surprised at how many girls overlook this.</p>

<p>I don’t care if your breath smells like alchohol at a party — but during the day, and even at night or parties, your breath shouldn’t smell like some particularly foul food you had from dinner. You can look like Megan Fox - but if your breath is particularly horrible, I’d still be extremely hesitant to make out with you - resulting in you thinking I rejected your advances or something. Brush your teeth after every meal (esp if you are going out) and buy some mints!!</p>

<p>eww, agreed (in guys). who DOESN’T brush their teeth before they go out though? i don’t know many girls who don’t.</p>

<p>i like gum better than mints, but according to conventional wisdom it’s rude to chew gum.</p>

<p>The most important deal-breaker in a girl for me is lack of an “inner spark”, energy and dreams. Someone who has no idea what to do with their life and is not interested in anything.</p>

<p>I think some people just have funky breath. I knew someone who I would see brush her teeth, and when she talked closely to me I wanted to puke a little. No idea what thats about.</p>

<p>As to the vegetarian thing. <em>Shrug</em> My and all of my vegetarian friends parents eat meat, and it<code>s rarely if ever a problem. It might different when living w/ someone you</code>re dating/married to, but I<code>ve never had a problem with guys I</code>ve dated as far as the meat issue goes.</p>

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<p>And conversely, you know there is something wrong with someone’s diet when they feel sick from drinking chicken broth…</p>

<p>-close-minded
-judgemental about other girls- like if we go out and he makes a negative comment about a girls body-if he’s judging them then i wonder what he thinks about me!
-into drugs/heavy drinking, although it would be nice to have someone who likes to party once in a while
-a smoker. YUCK
-doesn’t care about his health at all
-lacks ambition or a passion for something in life
-is rude to other people
-can’t hold conversation</p>

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<p>That may be true, so it’s not a deal-breaker for them. For me, it is. It would be staring me in the face every time we sat down to dinner. If it were for a health reason, I would understand. But if not, then those issues would similarly be glaring at me every single meal of my life.</p>

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<p>How is it any different than someone choosing not to eat fast food or carbs or any salads or any other food? Most people DO become a vegetarian for health reasons; I did. I feel 100% better and more energetic when I forego meat, just as many people feel better when they give up McDonalds. Giving up meat is just one way to have a healthy lifestyle; would you refuse to date someone if they were really into exercise or didn’t eat carbs (Admittedly, dinners with a low carb person would be somewhat weird b/c we couldn’t probably share much food-I love my breads and pastas-but I wouldn’t refuse to date someone b/c of it.)? Some people simply don’t like the taste of meat. Others, of course, give up meat because they are morally opposed to it, but that’s an idealogical problem, not an eating one. But is that really such a dealbreaker? Every couple is going to disagree over something; an omnivore and a morally-guided vegetarian would be akin to a Democrat dating a Republican. Yes, there’s going to be some disagreements, but it’s not like they’re impossible to work through and they won’t be that much of an issue if you let it.</p>

<p><em>deep breath</em></p>