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<p>-No sense of humor(or, more likely, a sense of humor incompatible to mine)
-Overweight. I don’t mean to be shallow, but it’s a deal breaker for me…
-Dramatic
-High maintenance (girls who take care of themselves = win)
-Conservative…especially the “religious right” and social conservative kind</p>
<p>It’s funny, because it isn’t as if there aren’t vegetarians who think eating meat is a deal breaker.</p>
<p>^Lol true. But though I can`t speak for all vegetarians, I find that just as ridiculous. :)</p>
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<p>I’m not sure of your point. I’m vegan by choice, not because it makes me sick. I’ve had accidents. Mostly with dairy. Never felt sick. I did accidentally eat meat, and felt sick by the thought of it, but not physically. If I ever had to eat meat, I could. But I don’t. I don’t have a problem with eating animals out of necessity, I have no need to.</p>
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<p>Did you read my post? I care about the reasoning that goes into these decisions. Health ones are not my concern, as I said.</p>
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<p>Again, I don’t really care about these reasons at all.</p>
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<p>Yes. That would be an absolute dealbreaker. Living with someone morally opposed to consuming meat is not something that I would be willing to do for the rest of my life. No way. </p>
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<p>That’s true. I could not date a morally-guided vegetarian just as much as I could not date someone of a vastly different political persuasion, or religion, etc.</p>
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<p>But. . .why? (Lol. I feel like a spaz b/c I seem to be asking you that over and over again.) I mean, surely you’re going to have some major difference of opinion with whoever you date. Would someone who chose not to eat meat b/c of beliefs really be that much of an issue? </p>
<p>Idk, it just seems like you only want people who are mostly like you, but variety is the spice of life, yo? I mean, if the chemistry is there, what does it really matter?</p>
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<p>That’s true; I do want someone like me. First, because religion is such an important part of my life, having a wife who can help me strengthen my faith and its role in my life is a must, not a plus. Similarly, I have strong political convictions, and a lot of them are necessarily based on value systems – it would be very difficult for you (presumably) to say, marry a Nazi. On the other hand, my concept of human life would make it very difficult for me to marry, say, someone who supports eugenics, euthanasia, abortion, etc.</p>
<p>It’s not a matter of being closed-minded – trust me, I am constantly listening to (and sometimes forcibly so) other people’s opinions. It simply means that I want someone to whom I can truly open myself, and if we have vastly different beliefs, that becomes impossible on many levels for many reasons.</p>
<p>I think something as basic as eating is important to have in common, at least for some people-- and for me. If my boyfriend wouldn’t eat meat based dishes we would perpetually be making two dishes for every meal. That would be a pain in the ass.</p>
<p>^^ I can understand not wanting to date some of a different religion, I suppose, but I still don`t understand why being a “moral” vegetarian would be such a deal breaker. Just know there are always exceptions (James Carvell and his wife, whose name I can not remember for the life of me, come to mind.) and never say never. :)</p>
<p>^ It<code>s not so bad once you get used to it. When I first went a veg a little over a year ago (Gave meat up for Lent and never went back), it was a pain b/c, being from the South, my family also cooks. A lot. Now my parents will just dish me out a portion before they add in the meat, or if its a casserole just make the end meatless. Obviously this is hard for some dishes, but we make it work 95% of the time. It</code>s also forced me to learn to cook, and there are some really wonderful vegetarian recipes and meat substitutes out there.</p>
<p>Eh, I think the different meals thing can happen in many situations. My boyfriend loves sweets and beef. Before I was even a vegan, I used to love chicken, hate beef, and love salty foods. We’d be eating very differently even if I was meat eater. Someone who eats kosher, has celiacs, diabetes, is lactose intolerant, etc are going to have very different eating patterns than a “normal” person. I think it can happen in any relationship, and so long as the partner has two hands and can make their own food (or has a partner that doesn’t mind the task) its a non-issue.</p>
<p>Plus, I cook, he eats it, and if not I make him something else he likes (with or without meat). But I also love to cook, so that probably makes things easier. (:</p>
<p>Well, I am glad it works for you. To each their own. You don’t really get to tell me what is or isn’t a big deal in my house.</p>
<p>I didn<code>t mean to offend you; I just meant that I think it can be done and ajusted to somewhat easily in difficult situations. I</code>m proof of that.</p>
<p>I’m vegetarian and I would STRONGLY prefer another vegetarian. I am also, a “moral” vegetarian or more accurately, a vegetarian because of religious and cultural reasons. My entire family is veg and if I marry someone of my own community, hopefully my vegetarian issue won’t be a problem.</p>
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<p>this. vegetarianism is just something i don’t often consider, so it’s interesting to hear your opinions on it…</p>
<p>A vegetarian would be easier than a vegan though. I think a vegan would be hard to do for me… I love my lardy foods. And French cuisine would be out of the question :|</p>
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<p>Exactly. When it comes to ideology, it is much easier to date someone of a similar persuasion. I know couples (I have some relatives like this) who can be marred with different belief systems. However, one is usually not as vehement as the other in the cases I know, so it works for them.</p>
<p>No need to get defensive. I couldn’t care less what you do in your house, nor who you date. Just saying its not as big of a deal as many people make it seem, being someone who is a vegan and has only dated non-vegetarians.</p>
<p>I’m not defensive. I was laying out why it would be a problem for me – the fact that we would constantly be eating something different is a deterrent, and the ideological component if it is there would also be constantly grating on me.</p>
<p>Sorry Baelor, wasn’t directing that at you, should have specified.</p>
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<p>The things we argue about on here :rolleyes:</p>