<p>I am new here and I am surprised at the hostile tone of so many posts. I had to double check to see if I was in the Parents forum and to my dismay, I was! </p>
<p>In just one thread I have been exposed to several rotten human emotions including envy, resentment, jealousy, arrogance, and selfishness from parents, who amazingly expect their kids to behave differently!!</p>
<p>Top counselors (private and not) will tell you that admission to the top universities and ivies is just ...crapshoot!!!! If you happen to look at the Ivy acceptances of those CCers that have posted them, you will find that there is no specific pattern. Stats, nor ECs, nor ethnic status alone have any value at the time of predicting an admission. These schools are looking to build a mosaic. The mosaic that THEY choose to have. Your kid may be the perfect piece of the mosaic for Cornell and not for Princeton, because each school may be missing a DIFFERENT piece. Or even worse (and painful) your genius of a child, with no personality or without a passion may not be part of ANY of the TOP schools mosaics. That is just the way it is. The lack of understanding this fact will set us up for a big disappointment.</p>
<p>As far as the question of ethnicity, a lot of the posters are showing their lack of sensitivity and the most ugly ignorance ( most likely fueled by their own frustrations ) Who are any of us to question the OP's feelings about considering himself a minority or not?. Did you know that the term "latino" has very different meanings to different nationalities?
For AA purposes, cubans were never considered "minorities" because their number of professionals, their income, etc was closer to that of the whites anglos. Mexican americans, blacks, puertorricans living in the US ( not those living in the island) and native americans were the minorities. Are some of you suggesting that someone from Nepal is an URM just because there is not enough of them around?? </p>
<p>To appease those of you who feel so threatened by the idea of the unsurmountable advantage of an URM, I will dare to indulge you further with a specific candidate that I happen to know. 1600 SATs ( 2005), SATs 3 subjects all 800. ACT 35. National Merit Scholar. National Hispanic Scholar. Valedictorian. Private school with hardest curriculum. School sends many students to the ivies. She was eventually chosen Presidential Scholar (do u know what that is?...About 2 students per state who meet with the President in the White House as a reward to her academics. Tons of well directed ECs and a flawless community service record. This is what is called the "super latina" in admissions terms. The kid was born in the US of hispanic parents who happen to be affluent and both professionals. The outcome? Wailisted at Harvard, Yale and Princeton. Can anyone explain it ? NO. This kid's standing was among the top 150 students in the country ( out of 1.4 million ) yet, these top universities did not accept her and she never cleared their wailtists. According to some of you her "hispanic" status should have made her a shoo-in. She just was not the piece of the mosaic that these schools were creating that year. May be they did not see her passion, or did not like her personality. In any case, she was crushed because she did not get into her dream school regardless of her awesome academic credentials and her "unsurmountable" hispanic advantage.</p>
<p>I believe that rick12 came to this forum with a sincere question. There is no arrogance nor disdain in his comments. He was just a puzzled and proud parent. People's nastiness even drove him off the forum!. Someone's perceived arrogance may just be the result of the other person's true insecurity. In the words of a well known modernist poet....."Envy has destroyed nations......." It is easy to see what it can do to a rational discussion and to an attempt to the exchange of ideas.</p>