<p>I do think that the limited communication with my D causes me to try to fill in the gaps and make assumptions about what she is thinking and doing. So, more frequent phone calls home become, she is homesick and missing us. </p>
<p>D is more of an introvert and has always been slow to make new friends. I’m thankful that she and her roommate have gotten along well enough so they do things together semi-regularly. I do think that her school is likely to have enough like-minded students that she will find closer friends, but it will take time. </p>
<p>It will be interesting to see how her Thanksgiving and Christmas breaks work out. She had a close group of friends through the summer but I imagine that they will all have begun creating ties in their new environments.</p>
<p>The other thing is that the percentage that are NOT Greek might be very un-social, which my son claimed was the case at his school. The percentages alone can be deceptive. This is somewhat of an exaggeration, of course, but freshman year my son claimed that the students who weren’t in rush never left the library or were internationals who only socialized with like internationals.</p>
<p>^ That is such tommyrot! There are plenty of kids at your son’s school who are natural-born Americans, leave the library frequently (if they ever enter it, that is), and are outgoing and social, but who do not belong to fraternities. Sometimes the issue is money, sometimes it’s class, sometimes it’s other activities that take up the time/fill the void; sometimes it’s not drinking, sometimes it’s not needing or wanting a fraternity to provide additional friends.</p>
<p>This was his impression freshman year. It has to do with the prevailing culture there. Yes, he met plenty of non-Greeks and has always had an active social life (too active). He isn’t alone in being surprised at the Greek presence there.</p>
<p>One suggestion that I have is that if she mentions transferring, don’t be negative about it. She may be concerned about how you might react if she does. The following is the point that made my antennae go up:
If this is really the case, she is probably pretty unhappy. I agree that she should take the lead, but she may need reassurance that you will support her if she does want to make a change.</p>