<p>OP - have your parents ever told you about Santa Claus?</p>
<p>OP, it sounds like you have some deep-seated psychological issues, and I’m not saying that to be mean at all. Maybe your roommate just wanted some space. Have you never told a little white lie to get someone out of your hair, if even for just a few hours? I can understand that you might be hurt, but it’s likely that your roommate has already gotten over it, so stop living in the past, forgive, and forget.</p>
<p>Nah lol… HE LIED TO ME… why can’t you guys understand that? Whatever… I guess I’m just weird or maybe you guys are all just pushovers who take sh/it from others. Keep living as sheeps… not my problem.</p>
<p>Actually, no, that’s not how it works. You don’t come onto an internet forum begging for advice and then proceed to call us a bunch of pushovers and sheep. We understand that he lied to you. You’ve lied before. So has everyone but this incident is so small that it’s clear you’re overreacting.</p>
<p>OP, I’ve been around the block a few more times than you and you are taking this way too seriously. The fact that this is still bugging you many months later indicates you have a problem, please stop obsessing about this. Life in the real world is going to be brutal if you can’t handle little hiccups in relationships like this.</p>
<p>You just gotta realize that small things like that DO NOT MATTER, dude. Honestly I would have lied to you too, if you’re this whiny in life I wouldn’t want you anywhere near me.</p>
<p>Also I’m sure the kid has forgotten about the incident. Think about it. How would you even bring that up? “So hey, like five months ago you lied to me about a party…”</p>
<p>Man up, chill out about a SINGLE event that happened like FIVE MONTHS AGO (that you already complained about) and quit waxing poetic about how it’s affecting your whole relationship and how you wouldn’t help him if he was jumped. Seriously? Stop being a little b<em>tch and shut the </em>** up. And to answer the question you actually asked, you are taking it much, much, much too personally.</p>
<p>If he’s such a bad person for lying to your face, then why do you still care? Just stop being his friend. Cause I doubt you’ll ever get him (or us) to think he’s that horrible. Just “save” yourself from such a “horrible, fake” friend.</p>
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<p>DUDE, a LITTLE, WHITE, LIE!!! A little nothing, the kind of lie people tell each other all the time. FIVE MONTHS AGO! YES, you’re taking it WAY too seriously, you remind me of this guy I used to be friends with back in 7th grade who said pretty much the same thing to me for just as minor an incident. Some kid was pushing me around and he got between us and I ran to a yard duty for help causing both of them to get in trouble (not my intention but there you go). This is college, grow up. You asked our advice and now you’re getting ****y because we tell you yeah you’re kind of taking this a bit too far?</p>
<p>Seriously *** “I don’t care if he gets jumped” what are you, some kind of sociopathic heartless ass? Cold doesn’t even cover it, that’s getting borderline evil. Burie’s right take it from a Psych student, it sounds like you have some deep seated psychological issues here… I mean this without insult, seek help. Because to be honest? You sound like a monster. I’d like to believe that you aren’t a monster, so go find someone who can help you.</p>
<p>He made one white lie and now everything he says is fake? Jesus dude… the others are right, that crap ended in High School. Honestly for those of us who are mature? That either ended in the 6th grade or never occured at all (note: my friend from 7th grade WASN’T mature). </p>
<p>If little tiny things like this are gonna bug you THIS much? You…really don’t belong in the world of adults, because this kind of thing happens thousands of times a day, the rest of us brush it off as “eh” - I get feeling hurt, maybe even feeling betrayed. That’s understandable. What ISN’T understandable is those feelings lasting longer than a week at the most. </p>
<p>My advice: Talk to him, share your feelings, get over it, and seek help. Savvy?</p>
<p>Just be a more creative liar than him on a daily basis . Its fun to mess with people and not take life too seriously.</p>
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<p>You should have mentioned, at the time, how much the incident bothered you. But just because he told you A SMALL WHITE LIE six months ago, it doesn’t mean that your entire relationship feels fake.</p>
<p>Do you have many friends? Because I can guarantee that any friends have probably told you a lie at least once. You need to get over this. You obsessing over the issue - to the point where you wouldn’t care if his life was in danger - is ridiculous.</p>
<p>Have you EVER talked to him about this issue?!?</p>
<p>Has it ever occurred to you that maybe he didn’t mean to lie to you? Maybe you"re just stupid. The group of friends he was with probably planned to go out together for the birthday, as that group of friends. “private party” probably just meant that they wanted to go out in a closed group of people. </p>
<p>And I don’t really get you. You ask for our opinion but refuse to acknowledge it.</p>
<p>Oh man, you have it ** real ** bad dude.</p>
<p>And I’m talking about your judgemental attitude and shelteredness, not your roommate.</p>
<p>People tell lies and make mistakes to get through life. You can’t avoid it. If you can’t tolerate it, you’re gonna have a rough life.</p>
<p>Play nice, he may quite possibly have a minor personality disorder. No biggie really, OCPD is minor if kept in check than most other PD’s.</p>
<p>Anal retentive character traits check
obsessive-compulsive traits check
pre- and co-morbidity traits check
avoidant-dependent patterning check
anxiety-depressive patterning check
anger mixed with lack of empathy check</p>
<p>Other OCD symptoms may include: uncertainty, indecisiveness, doubt, and intolerances with others differences or imperfections, emotional restrictions, rigidity etc.</p>
<p>The problem is you’re focusing on the things in life that don’t really matter. When I was a kid I had hopes and dreams. We all did. But over time, the daily grind gets in the way and you miss the things that really matter, even though they are right in front of you, staring you in the face. I think the next time you should ask yourself “Am I on the right track here?”. I don’t mean to be rude but people like you I really pity. So maybe you could use the few brain cells you have and take advantage of the knowledge I have given you now. Good luck.</p>
<p>You had something to hide
Should have hidden it, shouldn’t you
Now you’re not satisfied
With what you’re being put through</p>
<p>It’s just time to pay the price
For not listening to advice
And deciding in your youth
On the policy of truth</p>
<p>Things could be so different now
It used to be so civilised
You will always wonder how
It could have been if you’d only lied</p>
<p>It’s too late to change events
It’s time to face the consequence
For delivering the proof
In the policy of truth</p>
<p>People lie to cover flaws, and because of this they never get fixed. It’s good that you hate liars! Keep on your path of enlightenment! Your roommate obviously didn’t have the verbal capability to honestly express his opinion or choices; he could have lied or sounded like a mumbling buffoon… because he chose to lie, he saved sounding like a mumbling buffoon(and dealing with his flaws), hence he will continue to be a mumbling buffoon.</p>
<p>You’re at fault too; you should have called him out on it. Those who don’t call out people during a lie have the same complaints as you.</p>
<p>^Oy, don’t encourage him kid, that’s really really lousy advice.</p>
<p>So that’s 1 for, 37 against</p>
<p>Friends and females don’t want honesty, and are lying if claim otherwise. Lies keep relationships together and running more smoothly. The more you lie, the more they will love you for it. If you are too sincere, people will think you are all foam, no beer.</p>
<p>No, you should keep your “grudge”. Have a backbone. If they know that they can do something as simple as not invite you to a party, they know they can get away with much more. If I were in your position, I would find a way to get him kicked out of school or make him an alcoholic and have him drop out on his own.</p>
<p>Do you people these day go and waltz around the campus to find a party?</p>