<p>The only reason we LET you make life so hard for us is because we are so deeply attached to you, and that’s also the reason for the sadness and the emotion. It’s pretty simple, really. And also funny.</p>
<p>whiteagle, the two kids of mine who are already in college that I miss so much are both boys.</p>
<p>I just drove 5 hours to pick one of them up today and he is sitting on the floor in front of me drinking tea and playing a game with his sister.
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<p>One additional point–if the college is 35 minutes away, that means that you will be commuting for more than an hour–probably more like an hour and a half–every single day. That includes weekend days, most likely, because there will be activities that you will want or need to do on campus. That’s time that could be better used studying, engaging in extracurriculars, or sleeping. That commuting time may not be a financial cost, but it’s a real cost to you.</p>
<p>ketchup – what you said above worked for a friend of my D in the same situation. She told her parents she wanted to live on campus AT FIRST because first semester of freshman year is when you make all your friends, get oriented, join clubs, etc. They were going to re-visit the issue the next year. Of course, once everyone got used to the situation, it didn’t come up again and everyone is happy.</p>
<p>whiteagle, It was wrenching to have both S1 and S2 go. Just know that you are irreplaceable.
ketchup, sounds like you’ve got great advice. Happy Thanksgiving!</p>
<p>I think living on campus during freshman year is extremely beneficial socially at colleges where most of the students live on campus. It is much less crucial afterwards. So if “first year on campus, then reconsider” is acceptable to your mom, that’s probably a good compromise.</p>
<p>I just mentioned my concern (in another thread) about my DD’s ability to be as safe as possible. Maybe you can talk to your mom about your “safety knowledge”. You can promise to use the buddy system, never walk alone, etc. I’m very worried that my daughter feels too comfortable, and your mom might harbor this concern as well.</p>
<p>Glad to hear, moms, that you are going to miss us guys too.</p>