I do understand.
I wonder how much OP is paying for this year’s tuition ? Why ruin it for $900 whether saved, earned or borrowed ? Life is too short.
Maybe the irony will be that OP has to take an outside job to earn the $900 while the room is left unoccupied.
Great job, @leah3018 ! It sounds like you were firm and gracious and that your roommate was also reasonable and gracious and that you have resolved your issue. I’d say you resolved it like adults, but really, I think you did better than most adults. Hats off to you!
your roommate’s boyfriend sounds like a bum to me…it’s not a right to bring your BF/GF so frequently.
@Publisher I think you should send the $900. It is clearly not an issue to you, but it is to the OP. L-)
Not all students have that $ to spare. Many are making ends meet, but no more, through financial aid.
Great job to OP! Glad it is being worked out.
@leah3018 again I am glad there was a resolution. Thank you for posting, because my family did indeed go in and update DD2018’s housing choices to ensure that she would be in an individual bedroom situation. Would hate to have to negotiate this after housing assignment, particularly if she is randomly assigned a roommate by the school!
Unfortunately this truce will be short lived. I do not understand why OP should be forced to designate days she will be away. She is paying for the room, boyfriend is not & is not a student. Short-term & short-sighted resolution.
What happens if OP doesn’t stick to her “contracted” days away ?
@labegg understands & avoids unnecessary conflict before it arises.
IF there is any friction between OP and roomate after this, I hope she speaks up and says that this whole thing was unfair to her, stressful, and uncomfortable, all for this NON-STUDENT.
OP, if this happens, we are here for you. And I would suggest if it does, write a letter to RL.
@leah3018 So glad to hear this is finally resolved for you! I’m sure many lessons learned. Your handled it very graciously. Thank you for posting updates. Best of luck to you in your studies!!!
Res life is looking for the easy way out so that is most likely why they were pushing it around he can stay when OP is out of town.
The best revenge i can think of a story from my freshman year. A girl was much like OP roommate who just paid for the single instead of having roommate + boyfriend all the time. The girl moved to my floor and i maybe said hi to her once. The boyfriend pretty much moved in with her in the single, he did not go to my school and yet by December she was pregnant and was forced to drop out. She never came back to campus and i never heard what happened to her afterwards.
I am glad it seems to have resolved but in no way should the OP have to pay $900 for a single room that she didn’t seek out. I don’t care if the roommate can’t afford, she should have to foot the bill.
OP - if the “truce” is broken, I hope you will get your parents involved. If you were my D, I would be sending off my very sternest lawyer letter. By the way, are your parents up to speed on what is going on?
I don’t know why people are always so quick to suggets that lawyers (which can get expensive) get involved. Lawyers are invaluable and worth every cent for many things but probally overkill for this situation. The OP handled this issue perfectly. While it is unforunately that she had to go up the chain of command and get her parents involved but in the end it was resolved.
However, I would not surprised if this blows up again. Self-centered people like her roommate rarely change strips overnight.
MODERATOR’S NOTE
Per an earlier comment from the OP,the situation is resolved. Closing thread.