I agree with the height thing. My boys are 5’10 to my H’s 6ft. Not really anything I notice.
I subscribe to the Washington Post and for years they had a weekly feature called “Date Lab” where they matched up 2 people and sent them on a date. (I haven’t seen it lately, maybe they discontinued it). I found it frustrating that so many times both parties seemed to enjoy themselves and rated the date a 4 or even 5 (out of 5), and then no more contact, or maybe just a few texts. Based on the comments on the articles it seems as if a lot of others were frustrated/puzzled by this, too.
It seemed to me that many of these people weren’t willing to invest a bit more time on someone who could be a possibility.
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Why do you say this? We have been to six weddings in the last five years. All but one met their spouse either at a social outing at a bar, or through a dating app. And they are very happy.
Re: my own kids…as long as they are happy, I don’t care what they do.
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Mom of sons, many nephews. It has been my observation that (too)manyof the women they have dated, whether long- or short- term, had the same issue. They wanted a partner, but only on their terms, and only because it seemed like they “ought” to have one. The young men were essentially accessories,and their character, kindness, etc really didn’t matter to these young ladies. The women wanted something pretty and sparkly and impressive. S2 was firmly stuck in the dreaded friendzone.
S1 married and S2 has a long-term partner. Both of these women are accomplished and down-to-earth. Neither couple is remotely interested in children and I am fine with that.
It’s interesting to read the perspectives of others. (As a 5’4” woman I never thought about height.) lol
In my opinion most people have “a list” in their head of qualities that are desirable/undesirable/deal-breaker of a future (long term) partner. However at different points in our lives we want different things. So finding the right person is a combination of right person, right time.
I like seeing how this younger generation doesn’t feel they need to conform to societal expectations. They don’t need to settle for someone. I’m hoping we continue on the path of tolerating different life choices.
Ditto.
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I think @abasket was not expressing her opinion, just summarizing what public opinion seems to be and then her frustration with it 
I may have already posted in this thread, it’s long now, but older DD wasn’t sure where to look- hoped to find someone at church because that’s very important to her, but only one single guy close to her age at her church and he was a no go. She was not opposed to looking at bars but no luck. She got on Bumble and found “the one” with the second guy she went out with.
I think it is hard. Back in my parents’ day, I feel like there were more get-togethers (they met at a church roller skating event), and local dances held with the intention for young people in the whole area to gather and meet.
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Oh, it’s not my opinion! It’s what I’m reading in this thread. “Dating apps are only for hooking up”. “Bars are no place to meet a future partner” (not taking those quotes directly)
It’s like many are of the mind frame that you can only meet your Prince/Princess Charming at the ball!!!
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I was enjoying my latte when a segment came on our local tv station. It had me laughing…especially at “we’re dog parents”.
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Three of my nieces, an nephew and my S met their spouses online. The only niece getting divorced met her spouse at HS and then again in law school.
One nephew met his GF because they are both cpas at same large firm. Many folks meet long term partners online—it is definitely not only for “hooking up.”
S2 met his partner on a dating app…and it turned out they already knew each other IRL from volunteering at the same place. Perhaps sometimes people need a nice clear signal that there is interest, and maybe being on an app does that?
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For sure! It would be helpful if people in the grocery store had a label that floated over their head “single and looking” 
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Not gonna lie, I think a singles get together in a grocery store could be a fun thing! I think my kids would eat it up! Whole Foods used to do those wine nights - you get a wine glass at the door and a cart with a wine glass holder, do your shopping while stopping at various wine stations throughout the store for a sip of something. You’d learn a lot about people! Are they buying salmon or hot dogs? 
Do they buy cooking ingredients or frozen dinners? Are they a plain jane eater or an adventurous eater? Healthy or junky? Doggie biscuits in that cart indicating a dog lover?
How can I make a pitch to a store on this idea?! 
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Just don’t watch the movie Fresh! 
D2 says she doesn’t care about height in a guy (she is 5’7"), but don’t lie about it on a dating app. She has gone out with a couple of guys who said they were almost 6 feet tall that were not even 5’9"!
I hope that D2 will venture back into dating in the next couple of months. She turns 29 in June and says that until summer she is just doing things she loves and hanging out with her friends and not doing any dating.
Sometimes I wish we could set our kids up on cc!
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Exactly what I was thinking- 1980s
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My chances for grandchildren just improved. My daughter went to the Kentucky Derby over the weekend and came back engaged and with a new mountain bike and a VW Bug. The ring isn’t bad either.
Oh, and they met at college, not in a bar (but have been to many) and she’s 5’5" and he’s over 6’6" .
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Congratulations @twoinanddone.
I actually suggested they serve wine and appetizers on Friday early evenings at Home Depot.
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I believe that there was a singles scene in the Marina Safeway in San Francisco.
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I’ve been to that Safeway and I could see that!
My D22 met her girlfriend in the first week of college.
My oldest is not currently dating unless you count the new rescue dog who is taking up a ton of time.
One niece met her person in a bar. He’s taller than her. Not sure on education (he’s from another country), and works in IT for banking. She’s finishing up her PhD.
Nephew met his wife at work. They are a highly driven couple with a new baby and make good money.
Two other nieces met their partners at college. Same for another nephew.
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