Tall grandchildren, not just grandchildren lol.
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Well said! Anything can happen. My cousin’s daughter had kids at 18 and had an abusive marriage that she finally left. Her oldest daughter had 3 kids before age 25 and got married at 20, she is no longer with that man. Her younger D got married at 19, divorced around 22 and now has 3 kids with her boyfriend. Sometimes there is wisdom is waiting maturity and having more money…
My MIL died in her late 60’s when D was 2 and S wasn’t even born yet. She had my H when she was 24…just shows that life is uncertain and just because you have kids young doesn’t mean you’ll see grandkids. Sorry to be so negative…
Dating these days seems to be hard. I always encourage my kids to get out, do stuff, and meet people. You generally don’t meet people by sitting at home. Not that my kids have to get married.
My sister in law whose husband passed a way about 3 years ago, met a very nice man at jazz venue that she likes to go to. They were sitting near each other and started chatting. She went back a week later and he was there too and they chatted some more and he asked her if she’d like to get coffee. They went for coffee, then more dates and now they live together. My sister is 70 and widowed, her boyfriend is 62 and divorced. He’s an electrician with no college degree, but makes good money. She’s a retired teacher with a degree. He’s a very kind, interesting, well-read, well traveled person who just dotes on her. I always tell my kids to keep an open mind. Their aunt/my sister in law wasn’t even looking for anyone.
My niece met her husband in one of her accounting classes in college. They worked together on a project. He asked her out, they started dating, and then married a couple of years after graduation.
My nephew met his wife on an airplane. He was a passenger and she was one of the flight attendants. The flight he was on wasn’t full, so she wasn’t very busy and they had plenty of time. He was moving to her home base and she gave him her number and they’ve been married for about 11 years.
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Honestly - I thought the requirement for height and hair on the Indian Matchmaker Netflix show was odd. I guess I am behind the times. Not into those priorities- obviously they are beyond ones control.
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I’m tall and my daughter is an inch taller than that. Tall girls can be self conscious about dating men that are shorter than them, or too close in height. I’m not sure why short women would care, but for us tall girls it’s more about our perceptions of ourselves.
A former co-worker is Indian and she was involved in a dating app or something. The questions were very very (very) specific. She had to classify her skin color (caramel, darker, light), regions her parents were from, how involved she was in the culture, religion(s) practiced. This wasn’t that long ago. She was born and raised in the LA area. She was beautiful, about 5’4", parents were short. She was an only child and I think that played into it too (she was going to be responsible for her parents).
She went to a lot of weddings and most took the whole weekend. There were elephants and white horses and traditional clothing and evening gowns. Yes, she lived the lifestyle.
Years ago I watched a nightly news show that did a study about women dating habits. The worst thing a man could be was short. Didn’t matter his education, his kindness etc. This was before bald was cool and even bald men did better!
And so many men who have height are derogatory towards shorter men.
I remember that, too.
There are a lot of extremely successful shorter men that get chased by women of all ages. Success and wealth seems to be compensated by power and money
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As the saying goes about short, rich men – You are a lot taller when you stand on your wallet.
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I guess I am an outlier. I dated a guy in college who was shorter than me. (I’m 5’7", he was an inch or so shorter). Didn’t bother me at all. I have a friend who is very tall (over 6 feet) and her husband is maybe 5’10".
I guess I never thought it was that big of a deal.
I have nieces who are tall and some of their spouses are taller, some are a bit shorter and some about the same in height. Whatever.
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My daughter has had 3 serious relationships as an adult.
2 were tall and blonde.
Her fiancé is a generous 5’6” with brown hair. He’s a great guy.
I’d like to think that she matured 
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My S24 is 17 years old and is 5’5”. My FIL had a late growth spurt in 12th grade that pushed him to about 5’10”, but my son’s Dr doesn’t think he’ll grow more than an inch more by age 18. Sigh.
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This daughter weighed 1 lb, 4 oz at birth. I don’t think these grandchildren will be able to wear any hand-me-downs. Her boyfriend has HUGE feet too - I think size 15. No hope for a little ballerina.
Ha! It’s not just tall men making comments about short men.
My mother-in-law is (was - she’s shrunk a lot) tall, and she makes comments about my lack of height all the time. She makes fun of me for not being able to reach top shelves, has mocked my step stool in my home (“Is that for people with short, squatty legs?”), etc. One of her supposedly good friends is 5’3” which is about an inch shorter than I. She has referred to her as a, “midget.” My mil was probably 5’8” or 5’9” in her youth. I’m 5’4” and change, and she is probably only two inches taller than I am now. She has become very stooped as she has aged. To her, tall is superior. I’m sure our ds is a huge disappointment to her in this regard.
There are also plenty of people who make remarks about very tall people and plenty of strangers that feel free to comment and ask how tall you are and ask you how the weather’s up there!
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Olympic breaststroke gold medalist? Big feet is a bid advantage in breaststroke events! 
One of my kids is tall for a girl at 5’9”. We call her “horse legs” with love because all her height is in her legs. “Horse leg” is also a verb in our family as in “E horse legged the car seat again” meaning moved it back all the way. She loves being tall although because her legs are really long (same length as her 6’0” friend who is a boy) she does sometimes have trouble finding pants that fit. Her girlfriend is shorter than her so I guess when you are a same sex couple these height differences aren’t a big deal.
I know a couple of former pro basketball players with really tall daughters (over 6 feet). I never got the sense that they minded being tall. I think one girl is a few inches taller than her boyfriend. She’s in graduate school for Microbiology I believe.
My female cousin is 6 feet and she didn’t seem to have trouble finding dates. We did call her Big D because her name starts with a D.
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True. Plenty of rude people everywhere!
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H says he’s 5’10", but I’m 5’8" and if I’m wearing sneakers, I’m taller. OTOH, H is the tallest one in his family.
My youngest sister is 5’11" and her H is a couple inches shorter. Both of their kids are very tall. The Norwegian genes on our side run strong; we’re tall and have big feet. 
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I’m 5’4" on a good day, DH is 5’10". Our son is a hair under 6’3", taller than anyone on either side of the family. People give me suspicious looks…
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