<p>It just conveys that you lack a spine and/or social awareness when you ask someone out via Facebook. It’s lame as hell.</p>
<p>Secondly, if the vibe between you is as such, where you can’t even joke around with each other or be in the kind of position where asking her on a date isn’t out of the blue/ weird — well then, there is no sexual tension/ chemistry there, now is there.</p>
<p>Get rid of your social crutches. Pretend facebook doesn’t exist.</p>
<p>^ Although expressed quite brusquely, I agree with the general idea.</p>
<p>I have to admit I’m surprised by the number of people here who see a problem with someone asking another person out over FB.</p>
<p>No - don’t reject him via Facebook. Make him learn a lesson (as I take it you guys are friends) by rejecting him to his face.</p>
<p>^I find something wrong with it. I think a text is wrong. You should just do it face-to-face. It doesn’t need to be awkward or out of the blue. Y’know, next time you are with the person you want to ask on a date, just do it, accept/reject, and continue on a conversation. (Either that works or ask just as you two are about to split in different directions).</p>
<p>This is stupid. If you honestly try to bring manners or any type of philosophy into asking someone out over Facebook you really are overthinking this. It DOESN’T MATTER. What matters is that people make a big deal of it and don’t just accept it as it is, but rather spend hours thinking about all the nonsensical junk about Facebook vs w/e.</p>
<p>There is nothing intrinsically wrong with asking a girl out over facebook, but it may be indicative of some sort of flaw with the person.</p>
<p>A good portion of the time, if a guy has to use facebook to ask someone out, it’s because he doesn’t have the balls to do it face to face or at least over the phone.</p>
<p>Personally, I have used facebook to ask a girl to hang out before, or at least to get a number. Sometimes logistics make it impossible or highly difficult to do it any other way. This is fine as long as the guy isn’t doing it because he lacks confidence, which is something you’ll have to judge for yourself.</p>
<p>“This is fine as long as the guy isn’t doing it because he lacks confidence”
What’s wrong with a guy doing this because he lacks confidence?</p>
<p>It’s an unattractive quality. If he doesn’t have the confidence to do it in person, most girls are probably going to realize this and be turned off.</p>
<p>I hate when people do that sorta stuff. You could say, “sure, let’s go to dinner, just as friends.” That would be a polite but hopefully effective way to shut him up (if you truly are friends).</p>
<p>Miss Susan is your name eh? Never heard of a person named Miss.</p>
<p>“It’s an unattractive quality. If he doesn’t have the confidence to do it in person, most girls are probably going to realize this and be turned off.”
That is for the girl in question to decide. There is nothing ‘wrong’ in lacking self-confidence.</p>
<p>^^Lol, that looks strange now.</p>
<p>Asking someone out on Facebook is lame
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<p>A flaw in the person? This sort of oppressive attitude has caused many people grief. The fact you would even use this word in this context disturbs me.</p>
<p>Quit making life into such a competition. No person is flawed because he asked somebody to eat dinner over Facebook!</p>
<p>I got in a very intense relationship with a girl over facebook chat. It ultimately didn’t work out, but still.</p>
<p>The only thing asking a girl out over facebook shows is a lack of self-confidence. I mean, it’s not a big character flaw, in terms of that it makes you a bad person.</p>
<p>But not having self-confidence will kill your chances with girls. That’s just the way it is.</p>
<p>What if you’re already good friends with the person? Like she’s a study buddy you work with a few days a week?</p>
<p>Multicultural,</p>
<p>Asking a girl out in real life >>>>>>>>>>>>>>> asking a girl out in any other way.</p>
<p>what if you tried to get your mutual friend to gauge how the other person felt but it backfired and now she knows and she confronts you over fb and you get severely embarrassed but then 5 days later you hook up with her at a party because of the incident.</p>
<p>^^ true story</p>
<p>One: You facepalm. </p>
<p>Two: You go ask out her out in real life now, because she likes you?</p>