<p>When I say “hook up” I meant like going out, not like bedroom activities or anything.</p>
<p>that’s the strangest definition of hook up i’ve ever seen</p>
<p>So strange that it stretches the meaning of “hooking up” into utter nothingness.</p>
<p>check urban dictionary yo.</p>
<p>my definition isn’t strange. get moving with the times. hook up just means some sort of intimate connection.</p>
<p>Urban dictionary as a cultural reference? I virtually spit on the notion.</p>
<p>What does “intimate?” To me it means emotional closeness. Is that what you mean? It would help if you clarified.</p>
<p>every person I’ve ever talked to considers hooking up to be at least making out</p>
<p>i think we’re being ■■■■■■■, boys.</p>
<p>who said there wasn’t making out?</p>
<p>These two statements are incompatible:</p>
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<p>“Going out” implies depth, antithetically to “making out.”</p>
<p>If you don’t see how these two statements cannot be resolved, you either fail at dialectic, or you should let me know where you live so I can make sure I don’t go anywhere near that place.</p>
<p>okay I was trying to be compact.</p>
<p>but it ended up like this:
awkwardness
conversation
making out
agreeing to go out</p>
<p>I was thinking you’d be a little less thick-skulled.</p>
<p>just let the endorphins guide you, yo.</p>
<p>^ Like (10c).</p>
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<p>And here I was, thinking that you would be more coherent.</p>
<p>You said they were “going out.” You then said that they were making out, not going out. You finally said that they were making out, then decided to start going out (which would necessarily mean that they weren’t).</p>
<p>Make up your mind.</p>
<p>Also, they both sound slutty.</p>
<p>Ok responding to the first post, I would say that as a guy, he needs to grow a set. That means asking someone face to face instead of texting her, facebook messaging her etc…If he really wants to date you, he would ask you in person or at least call you.</p>
<p>^ That was my initial thought as well. Thanks for your input, everyone.</p>
<p>When people speak in vagueries a lot of times its because they are full of lies.</p>
<p>Just say you made out with her, you got got her naked, or you penetrated her. No one cares about anything else.</p>
<p>“Going out” is dumb. I “go out” with my friends and male roommates all the time.</p>
<p>You are either in a relationship (bf/gf) or you are phuhk buddies or you are neither. Otherwise you are not romantically involved.</p>
<p>Oh and I’m not even going to refer to “dating” because no one dates in college. You are either sweatily plowing each other first chance you get or you cling onto each other like grim death and are in a de-facto 4 year marriage because you fear the single scene. Often both.</p>
<p>“It’s an unattractive quality. If he doesn’t have the confidence to do it in person, most girls are probably going to realize this and be turned off.”</p>
<p>it has nothing to do with confidence. like i said before, it’s like a safety net…catches some of the embarrassment of being rejected, or something. [idek if that analogy works, but oh well.] no girl in her right mind would reject a guy BECAUSE he asked her out over facebook. WHO GIVES TWO ***<em>S, really. plus, it would make things *much</em> less awkward for the BOTH of us if i were to get asked out by a guy i have no interest in, at all. i appreciate the time & the thought one can put in to his/her rejection via online messaging, lol.</p>
<p>seriously, /thread.</p>
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<p>Yeah, you are totally able to make this claim. </p>
<p>I would not blink if a girl told me she rejected a guy because he asked her out over FB.</p>
<p>I think if the girl already likes you she might think it curious but she wouldn’t reject you</p>
<p>^^if she were to say that, then, trust me, she didn’t like the guy a whole lot in the first place ;)</p>
<p>I don’t see how the guy-in-question lacks confidence. Maybe it’s because I’ve been at Georgia Tech for too long, but people who lack confidence are too afraid to say, “We should go out and get dinner soon…” They are so scared of being rejected that their mentality is, “better to not ask at all than to risk rejection.”</p>
<p>If OP hasn’t already replied, as a guy, I’d recommend straight-up saying you’re not interested. I think it’s better for the guy to get the message ASAP than to keep up false hope. One of my previous roommates got played very badly by his crush. She told him a variant of “let’s just be friends,” but he didn’t get it, so he kept doing what he had been doing: hanging out without ever suggesting a date together. It didn’t take long for her to start using him as a free chauffeur who would buy whatever she wanted. This went on for a semester until he finally realized that he got screwed, and not in a good way.</p>
<p>I don’t want to insinuate that OP is that manipulative. I just want to give a guy’s perspective on why I think it’s better for ladies to give outright rejections than to do the “let’s just be friends” thing.</p>