<p>"if he still acts awkwardly and does not make a move, he is probably gay and the situation is hopeless."</p>
<p>haahahaha. great, you've got a gay german on your hands.</p>
<p>It's time to go Sadie Hawkins style.
When he kicks you in your ass, kick him right back and be like, "Does that feel good to you?"
...if he cries, just walk away from that pussy or if he's REALLY attracted, kiss him on his behind and wish him a quick recovery.</p>
<p>"One word: Confidence"</p>
<p>Thats pretty much it in a nutshell.</p>
<p>Meh. Most people wouldn't know the difference between cockiness and confidence if it smacked them in the face. That's not it. She likes him, but feels like it's his responsibility to approach her, woo her, make it easy on her. This is more misguided, coy, chase-me logic...probably perpetrated by her friends or TV.</p>
<p>well, what I'm saying is that I'm open to liking him... i think that he's attractive. If he wants me to actually like him though, he needs to do something about it... There are other people who like me and are demonstrative about it, so why should I choose to go after a guy who isn't? It's not me completely believing that guys need to make every move, it's me wanting this to not be uncomfortable anymore.</p>
<p>If you don't have a passion for him and aren't driven to get together with him...stop making a big f(u)cking deal out of this.</p>
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<p>well having that kind of confidence isn't as easy as you think, since there's soo many guys who have issues there. just give him some motivation, like smile at him, or like some other people here said, touch his hand or w/e, that might help him. it might be a bit unreasonable to expect that every guy will have the kind of confidence to walk up to a girl he hasn't talked to yet and start a conversation. just my two cents.</p>
<p>Are you hot? </p>
<p>Is he hot?</p>
<p>If you're both hot, it might work.
If you're hot and he's not, it will DEFINITELY work.
If he's hot and you're not, it will never work.
If you're both ugly, it might work.</p>
<p>Welcome to the jungle.</p>
<p>what are your options? Can you get other guys to pay attention to you? If so, get with a dude who has some game/isn't a little kid...Homeboy is definitely not some Don Juan if he's pulling that schoolyard nonsense, and probably couldn't please a women physically cuz he wouldn't know how...</p>
<p>Better yet, get some easy trick like me to buy you all sorts of drinks and clothes (j/k).</p>
<p>OMFG! If you're attracted to the guy, just go up to him and say "I think you're cute" or something like that. Once he gets over his fear of rejection and becomes comfortable with you, he'll stop this weird circus act he's doing called courtship. Okay, so he's not exactly a 'player' when it comes to picking you up. Can you blame him? Some guys simply have had more social experience with girls or approaching people.</p>
<p>In this modern era, guys and girls are not getting laid enough as much as they want to. It's because two people who are attracted to each other keep dancing around the point, playing hard to get, etc, and f(u)cking things up. Just show massive signs of interest to this guy and see if you can have some fun together.</p>
<p>if he makes you uncomfortable and doesn't seem to be able to really get a good conversation going then maybe its a sign that there isn't much of a chance.<br>
I just say that from personal experience though.</p>
<p>brilliant post raisinbran</p>
<p>Uh, some of the responses here are really horrible and mean. You're calling him a pussy just because he's shy and not one of the super-confident, stride up to the girl types? Are you saying that every guy should have the same confident personality?</p>
<p>This is so stupid. I don't know if it's our culture or the media that tries to perpetrate confident male andcoy and shy female types, but I'm sure that there are hetero relationships where the girl approached the guy first. Jeeez.</p>
<p>Relationships where girls approach guys exist, absolutely. I've found they actually last longer than the other way around (I knew a couple who went 2+ years like this in HS, none of the male-first ones went beyond a few months...the relationships I've seen so far in college are either old ones that I don't know the history of or are relatively recent).</p>
<p>And don't blame it on a guy being shy/not confident or something. Some guys, like me, are just really tough to get. I've rejected more girls than I've ever asked out. I might be an old dumb offspring of a blue collar rooted family, but I'm not stupid. I know who's a good fit and who's not within the first minute of talking to someone. And interests play a huge role as well. </p>
<p>Also, don't forget that some people are just not that romantic, or so they seem. With a German heritage, I'm one of them--I keep my distance when walking and it's rare to get a hug from me. Now I have a good heart, don't get me wrong, but I'm not going to be all touchy-feely about things. Perhaps that's what is rubbing off with some of these people you folks have in question. And when I get a gift for a girl, it's always something practical. You won't find me giving out stupid teddy bears. (BEARS = DUST COLLECTOR!) Handcrafted wooden letter openers always are good gifts though.</p>
<p>Finally, some people, again using myself as an example, just might not be interested in dating at a given time. I turned a girl down once when my folks seperated. I had enough stuff going on at home, didn't need anything else to add to the puzzle. Turned another one down once because I was involved in a ton of activities at that point in my life--would have had no time for a relationship. And I turned another girl down because I was so addicted to my job and was so close with all of my co-workers that I didn't want anything to take away from that. </p>
<p>Currently nothing is in my way when it comes to dating, but none of the girls on my campus are ones I'd date. You girls may just have a guy who is looking for someone special and as much as you hate to admit it, you're not that one for him.</p>
<p>I feel your pain...only I can't ever tell when a guy's interested in me...I just overthink things, get frustrated and give up. lol</p>
<p>Each guy should come with a book attached that describes how he acts around girls he's interested in. That would be helpful.</p>
<p>Katho--you mean like the sales brochures that come with cars that say it does 0-60 in X seconds, stops in Y feet, and has a turning radius of Z?</p>
<p>If you do it to guys you've got to make these for girls too though.</p>
<p>The number one thing that will give a guy away is if he's constantly staring/looking at you. If you catch him looking at you more than 2 times, you've got him in the bag.</p>
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<p>Exactly! lol</p>
<p>And I'm more than willing to have one for myself as well.</p>
<p>dont b mean, he's shy, if your interested in him. help him out and start convo's with him. after a while he won't act so weird when he gets comfortable being around you.</p>