<p>He has no right not to let his roommate now know he’s gay. Saying that it is a personal thing and that it is confidential will not better the situation when you find out that your roommate is homophobic and that he hates gay. I’m not homophobic but if I roomed with a guy to find out he was gay or even worse, he brought his boyfriend over, I would be enraged. Because of the way I was raised and because of my religion, I cannot tolerate those kinds of things and I would litterally curse my roommate out. You guys are acting as though having a roommate is comparable to a classmate, well IT’S NOT. A roommate is someone you share a room with, will probably share a bathroom together and will probably see once in a while wearing boxers or with their shirt off. I will not feel comfortable in anyway with someone who may be attracted to me seeing my comming out the shower with my shirt off. It is just as comparable as a girl not wanting to room with a guy. Why? Because she will feel uncomfortable and every one has their rights and levels with comfort. Just because I might be comfortable with a gay classmate doesn’t mean ill be comfortable living with someone gay. In conclusion, for the avoidance of conflict, please let him know!</p>
<p>To the original poster, if you’re still there!</p>
<p>Does your school have any type of survey that you fill out to match you to roommates? Mine had one asking if I would be uncomfortable with sharing a room with someone of the opposite orientation. I think alot of colleges are trying to do something similar. It’s a really hard question though. . .I guess I would bring it up sooner rather than later. Because I would hate for you to be half way through the semester, then he finds out and makes your life hell and you can’t even change rooms.</p>
<p>you know, I hate that, just because I say that I don’t want to see two gays making out, I’m homophobic… Gays use that as their only argument to why some people in the world are not accepting them </p>
<p>I’m not afraid of gays and I certainly dont dislike gays but I just have my own level of comfort with them, If you are saying that because I have my personal preferences on who I live with that I am homophobic, then I guess I am (according to your definition). Just like how some people won’t room with someone that drinks (like me also) or someone that is messy, I don’t want to see two guys making out in the same room with me.</p>
<p>I think homophobe actually is a good catch-all term to describe people that don’t want to be around gay people. The term itself is a bit corrupt in terms of etymology but these days it’s more of a fuzzy neologism than a well-constructed word, but anyway. It’s not necessarily a bad thing unless you act on it - i.e. I think cursing someone out for not revealing an intimate personal trait is beyond the bounds of civilized behavior.</p>
<p>HOWEVER, people are completely entitled to their own views and beliefs and the fact of the matter is that religions that condemn homosexuality aren’t going away any time soon. If you don’t want to room with a gay person, well, that’s your prerogative and no amount of internet showboating is going to change that.</p>
<p>@buriedalie yes, I know that my views cannot be changes and I did not put my views down to start any debates or wars, simply, I put my views down to show the OP about the importance of letting your roommate know about your sexuality before the situation becomes extreme and causes a huge problem that could have been avoided in the first place. My previous post was not meant to degrade gays or to rant, but just to show a perspective and to counter the post I heard earlier that it was his rights to inform the room mate of his sexuality. And about the homophobic thingy, everyone has their own definition and according to their definition, I hate gays.</p>
<p>Um, no. The OP has every right to keep his sexuality to himself. It would be courteous of you to tell your roommate that you are uncomfortable around gay people so that he has the chance to switch if he is gay. Not the other way around.</p>
<p>And honestly, anyone who would become “enraged” simply because his roommate brought his boyfriend over is homophobic. I don’t know why you’re getting so defensive; you said yourself that your religion tells you to be.</p>
<p>Simply because the sight of two guys making out makes me sick to my stomach. </p>
<p>And either way, I just realized that being homophobic will not affect me in anyways judging that I will be attending a jesuit college that has a barely noticible gay population. So call me homophobic, I can give a hoot.</p>
<p>BTW answer this, (this has nothing to do with gays) but just an analogy to your logic </p>
<p>Should the HIV positive individual tell his partner that he’s infected, or should the other partner ask about his health if she was unaware?</p>
<p>I am done with this thread and am not looking for further arguments or debates. Have a nice day sir!</p>
<p>Why are you so shocked? Life is full of close minded people…</p>
<p>Anyway, this thread is kinda pointless at the pointlesd at this point…i mean, nothing is going to get accomplished. At this point, everyone is just sounding like a broken record.</p>
<p>To address the main question. You shouldn’t tell him if you dont want to. That is something totally up to you to talk about and it is no business of anyone elses if you dont want it to be.</p>
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<p>I would like to take a minute to address a major issue in this post. I attend a Jesuit high school in a large metropolitan area. I am certainly not religious myself and i am not a fan of organized religion, but most Jesuits would be totally disgusted by this post. The Jesuits (who are by far the liberal branch of catholicism) are supposed to strive to be “Men for Others”, by posting this completely awful, disgusting, bigoted post, you are contradicting the values of a Jesuit school, showing that you dont understand the mission or values of those who lead your school, and insinuating that Jesuit schools may frown upon or not accept gay culture or not have a large gay population (which is totally FALSE).</p>
<p>Also, I just looked at your past posts and saw you were going to BC, many kids from my school go there and one or two going next year are gay. So you might want to transfer before its too late if you are really that disgusted by gay people. Also, Massachusetts has legal gay marriage, I hope you can survive.</p>
<p>JeSuis has already thoroughly and logically explained why a gay roommate is no big deal. This thread can go nowhere but down. I feel slight envy toward the lgbt students of the future fifty years or so who will not have to go through many of the unnecessary struggles which many of us will soon encounter. </p>
<p>^ Hate to say it but it isn’t going to get much better in 50 or so years…as long as people are different from one another then someone somewhere is going to use that as a reason to hate others. Its a sad but unfortunately fact about humans. Personally I believe that if one person cares deeply about another then it doesn’t really matter what gender those people are. And I agree that this thread should be closed…your question was answered and the only thing that is going to happen here now is two people getting into a huge argument.</p>
<p>I second Drew. Slavery ended in the 19th century, it’s now the 21st century and we still have racism and people who think blacks should still be enslaved. There’s always going to be hate; minds well just get used to it and get thicker skin.</p>