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<p>One of the masters-degreed teachers in our local public school is married to a union electrician. I don’t know the details of their finances, but I would wager I know which one makes the most money. And most of the farmers around here drive really, really nice vehicles, and many of them take long vacations every winter in really, really nice places.</p>
<p>annasdad, exactly correct. I know plenty of electricians and plumbers who are quite sucessful. I also know some people in these types of jobs who are also not earning a living. Electricians and plumbers have been through vocational training through school and/or on the job training for years. They have a special set of skills and have the ability to make a nice living. A dishwasher is not gaining specialized skills unless the dishwashing job is a PT gig while the person is in school or working at a job which will give them training in something that has decent earning potential.</p>
<p>Annasdad-you are making a lot of assumptions about OP daughter. She is no different than Anna, what is YOUR daughter doing now? Washing dishes at a restaurant. It is unbecoming to be name calling someone’s kid, when you know nothing about her.</p>
<p>Who else but the dishwasher would be willing to date a <em>gasp</em> food service worker?</p>
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<p>Why is that? Please!!! It is pretentious to be speechless.</p>
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<p>Equal to me is someone who treats me the way I treat them, someone who loves me the way that I love them; someone who is kind, like I show kindness, someone who is giving like I like to give.</p>
<p>Equal does not mean having the same size paycheck, the same religion or same education.</p>
<p>Maybe this young man is washing dishes to EARN money to go to college. Now that’s a concept.</p>
<p>I put myself through college working in bars and restaurants. (Not as a dishwasher, or whatnote), but it was a slightly false front, because my father was a very successful high school dropout who felt if we wanted a college degree that was up to us. He was always much more interested in how my job was going than how my classes were going. </p>
<p>But, I think people here are being a bit PC disingenious to act, in this current climate of diminished opportunities, that it doesn’t matter if someone is getting an education. even my father, now a grandfather, is interested in my kids grades and in their going to college. “Times have changed,” he says. (note: by education, I mean training beyond high school. The trades, a useful AA degree, just something that leads to employment opportunities)</p>
<p>My advice to OP, just dont say a word. If she falls in love with him and he with her and they end up together? he will do more than remain a dishwasher, I"m sure. Otherwise, she may just be avoiding the promiscuity of the average college guy by dating a guy who treats her like she wants to be treated.</p>
<p>You people crack me up. She’s a college freshman, and she’s dating this guy. Most of you are talking marriage. Seriously, what are the chances of that? She’s 18 or 19. She’ll probably end up with an alum of the expensive dream school, just like Mom wants. How can you look at an 18-year-old and predict what he/she will become? At that age, Steve Jobs was tripping around India.</p>
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<p>And most of those farmers have college degrees.</p>
<p>I feel a lot of people here are going into an attack mode . So , if she was dating a wealthy drug dealer would that be better or worse ? Just wondering …</p>
<p>Am I the only one that thinks the OP was kidding? If the OP was serious about finding a well heeled spouse for the D than she could probably find a higher per capita potential husband material with more bucks and family connections at UofM or in Boulder than at a financially generous to those with less than 6.5 figures college.</p>
<p>To some it may not be PC to say that you are worried about your DD marrying the dishwasher she’s dating at 19. Still, many posters on cc, and many people, do meet future spouses during their college years. I take the OP’s word at face value regarding his/her concern.</p>
<p>I really hate doing the dishes. OP’s daughter may also feel that way. </p>
<p>Is he bright, kind person washing dishes because that is his only opportunity at the moment? If so, then what is the problem? If he is washing dishes because that is the extent of his ability, and if the attraction is a bizarre sort of social slumming, then I would see more of a problem. Washing the dishes in one’s late teens or early twenties does not define a person. There are a lot of other variables to consider.</p>
<p>Oh I don’t think that the OP was kidding. I think that her concern is not that he is a dishwasher (because her daughter also works part-time at the same establishment), but that he does not go to college.</p>
<p>Maybe it’s a rebellious act? Or there’s something else going on? If you are in school with 40,000 students and you start a relationship, within 3 months, with someone who is not a student, it’s kinda unusual…</p>
<p>Maybe D is just making the entire thing up…</p>
<p>fauxmaven-she wouldn’t call him a drug dealer. He would be an entrepreneur in emerging markets.</p>
<p>^Lol mizzbee, my favorite comment of the thread (followed closely by Stat’s gems). </p>
<p>Call me a conspiracy theorist, but I have my suspicions about these threads that pop up every week or two with provocative titles, dramatically written by an anxious OP only to have the OP never weigh in again throughout the considerably lengthy thread as it takes on a life of its own. I would even go so far as to venture there is a population of posters (possibly closely affiliated with CC), who initiate these posts to keep the boards lively, animated and interesting- with possible “Poster Provocateur of the Week” titles to be handed out to those who were most successful in creating a seismic thread of ridiculousness.</p>
<p>addendum: after writing this I bothered to go back an look at OP’s post history and apparently this thread is not the grand farce I thought it was, my apologies to OP,</p>
<p>…but I do love conspiracy theories!!</p>
<p>I have taken to white gloves to avoid accidentally skin on skin contact with the underclasses. These types favor the handshake, fist bump, and high five in all manner of occassion. And good well-bred men acquiesce (albeit weakly). Not me, I shall defend the ramparts of decency.</p>
<p>Relatedly, I recently (reluctanly) conversed with a neighbor who offered that he attended Hopkins. Naturally, and quite reaonably, I assumed that he attended the Hopkins School and was, as day follows night, a Yale man. When I suggested that a sound thrashing was impending in The Game, i was met with a vacant stare. He explained that he attended Johns Hopkins. Upon returning his vacant stare he explained that Johns Hopkins is a school in Baltimore. Baltimore, Maryland!</p>
<p>I quickly calculated my diminution in property value at $1.2 million.</p>
<p>Heed my warning, if we don’t get these ravenous underclasses under control we shall soon find ourselves a helpless, under-civilized third world nation. Like France.</p>
<p>Assuming this is a true story, I like it that D is truthful with parents. If they overreact, then she might not do so in the future.</p>
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<p>Lets not make the assumption that this fellow, who does dishes as his profession, will have any interest in doing dishes at home. If this is her main interest in him, she may be sorely disappointed.</p>