<p>Alright, so I've moved into a new dorm for the semester. I really like it and it's pretty much exactly what I want, though I wish they weren't so strict on drinking. Anyways, I have a new roommate. She and I literally do not speak at all. I think I've said maybe like ten words to her over like three and a half weeks. Which is 100% fine with me, I really don't need to be her friend. I have plenty of them a few floors up. However, the fact that we don't talk raises some issues...</p>
<p>First of all, I'm a lesbian. I'm not like super out there, most people do think I'm straight. Do you think I should tell her? It's a bit odd since I can't just bring it up in conversation. I also probably wouldn't have a girl I was interested in over unless my roommate was gone for the weekend or something similar. I personally hate HAVING to come out to people, I don't think anyone owns that information except for myself. She doesn't change in the room or anything so it's not like that's an issue. </p>
<p>Second of all, I do drugs. I know she knows I drink because I come home drunk a few nights a week. I don't think she knows I do drugs. I don't do anything like that hardcore, just like weed, e sometimes, and some various pills. I also don't have much right now in my room but I'm coming off a tolerance break and so I'll be getting more. It's another random/awkward thing to just bring up, but were I ever caught I would completely own up to them, and they'd be on my side of the room. I sort of don't want to tell her because I don't want to make her uncomfortable or feel like she doesn't know if she should report it. I would never get her in trouble and there's no rule at my school saying that both roommates get in trouble for stuff in the room.</p>
<p>If you do drugs, don’t keep them in the room. Thats my roommate and mines rule, since she can be held accountable for you having them even if they aren’t hers. My roommate drinks, but she can’t brink alcohol into the room.</p>
<p>If I found out my roommate was gay and he comes home late at night high and drunk I would get the hell out of there and find a new roommate. Too many things that could happen that I don’t want to think about…</p>
<p>The power of christ compels you!</p>
<p>But seriously, being a lesbian is fine. I love lesbians. But don’t do drugs. Drugs are bad for you.</p>
<p>There’s no rule here that says if drugs are found both people get in trouble. Furthermore, if they were found (which would be highly odd since I am responsible and careful) I would completely own up to them. I couldn’t even think of getting her in trouble for my actions, and I can accept the consequences of what I choose to do. If somehow she got in trouble for them, I would stand up and say they were completely mine. I don’t really have anywhere else I can put them though. Ditto for alcohol, but like I said if I was caught I’d completely own up. I’m not a liar.</p>
<p>Are you sure there is no rule? Because at my school, if you know about it and don’t report it, you are held liable as well. For instance, I do not drink, but my friends do, if I am in the room with them while they are drinking and they get busted, I get busted as well.</p>
<p>@mathsciencedude – I’m famous! But you’ll have to refresh my memory, it’s been awhile since any major LGBT-related thing popped up around here… what am I famous with you for saying?</p>
<p>^That seems just… SO illegal, if I got busted with that rule I would want to sue… and not the person who had the drugs, I’d want to sue the people trying to boot me out of the school for a false charge of possession.</p>
<p>Well I never do anything in the room. I hide it well and I don’t like ever let them see the light of day inside my room. Also if somehow my roommate got in trouble for them, I would take full responsibility. And if I don’t tell her, then it’s not like she knew and didn’t say anything. I wouldn’t let her get a false charge of possession.</p>
<p>First things first, turn your webcam on when you have sex with a girl and upload it for us to see. As long as you’re a hot lesbian, not the fat tattooed lesbian type</p>
<p>Actually I believe it is a federal law that if drugs are found on premises, everyone living there COULD be found liable. This was a problem for a friend’s S when he lived in the dorm. Even tho the person who owned the drugs confessed, the cops had discretion as to how much trouble they wanted to make for the room mate.</p>
<p>I have a friend who makes a lot of money for the federal government by confiscating & selling homes where drugs are found. VERY HIGH STAKES! It doesn’t matter if the people who owned the place weren’t the ones who possessed the drugs and can lead to some very sad situations.</p>
<p>Dabbling with drugs and alcohol is extremely dangerous–some of the combos are lethal, especially if you’re not sure what else may have been added to either.</p>
<p>Taking your other question seriously, I don’t think you have any obligation to disclose that you are a lesbian. It isn’t her business. If she finds out and throws a fit, it’s either because she has a problem with you personally and sees your sexuality as a convenient scapegoat, or it’s because she has a problem with homosexuality. If it’s the former, then your lesbianism isn’t the problem at all. If it’s the latter, then that’s HER problem - not yours.</p>
<p>I know an idiot or two will post on here in about five minutes, saying that they wouldn’t want a gay/lesbian roommate because he/she would be ogling them all the time, but you know that isn’t even an issue.</p>
<p>I believe it may be different since it is a dorm. And I’m not talking about having, like, crack in my room. Mostly weed. They do not call the cops for weed here. I have seen people get caught for it before.</p>
<p>Honestly I really am not afraid of getting caught. I am ridiculously discreet and very safe. The drugs are well-hidden and I never use them anywhere near the dorm. The issue I’m having is whether to tell her that I have them.</p>
<p>Also HImom, I do not mix drugs other than weed with alcohol and I buy pill test kits when I can. I understand that risks exist, and I believe that I minimize them as much as possible.</p>
<p>I meant minimize them as much as they can be minimized while still doing drugs, lol. I accept the risks that still remain. I feel that I do them as safely and responsibly as I possibly can.</p>